What is the maximum acceptable number of prior partners for a woman...before marriage in Greece?

Trying to understand Greek society and culture...Does a promiscuous woman (who have had many partners) have a chance of marrying well in Greece?

2010-08-11T11:53:50Z

Would a Greek man find it later that he picked a difficult marriage? Any sane person would know not to marry a "party-girl" because they don't make good wife material....but I have seen (in the West...generally) that promiscuous people often completely settle down when they encounter someone they truly really love.

This, of course is totally tabboo in the Muslime world.

2010-08-12T06:00:26Z

@Greek Cigar--I tell u without any second thought whatsoever...you're preaching to the choir !

2010-08-12T14:05:57Z

Yeah, I guess no sensible man, Greek or otherwise, would ask a woman how many partners she'd had. Women cover up and fake their AGE, boobs, hair color, faces, looks, weight, height, their motivations...each and every day of their lives. A woman lies to herself every day in front of the mirror, and one is going to ask how many partners she's had ?? Makes complete sense...

2010-08-12T19:39:36Z

Quite good inputs here from Greek people themselves.

@Airpole-that's a good example of what happens when we judge people based on what we hear about them and what they say they are...rather than spotting it by their actions. Having had sexual partners before doesn't make an individual inelligible for a good marriage. The fact that she has a past should not make any difference. Another fact is that one cannot guarantee virtue in anyone, even a woman who has been as pure as the driven snow before marriage may still be tempted after marriage. And men who have a condescending attitude for woman who'd have past liaisons is most unappealing; well, so long as she wasn't a complete slvt. Sometimes, there is still a borderline or a limit that is acceptable. I say this because I certainly know of many societies all over where it can be pretty galling being married to a woman who so many other guys have 'plundered,' but then, hey, you married her didn't you?

2010-08-12T19:58:15Z

Since I posed this question...this further reinforces my belief (and I'm sure am not the only one who'd had a thought like this) that MARRIAGE FOR ANY OTHER REASON THAN LOVE FOR EACH OTHER WILL MEET DISASTER, DISILLUSIONMENT & DISGUST.

It all happened BEFORE she met you. And, if a man's judgment is so overwhelmingly important to side on the conservative kind, let this woman go. This gives her a chance to find true happiness some day with a man who will love and accept her without reservations. In marriage...love is accepting; unacceptance is judgmental and punishing.

Johnny Pumps2010-08-11T09:48:19Z

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I definitely have to say that there is a double standard when it comes to this topic... I would first have to say it depends on age.. and obviously the less the better... lol, no but seriously if you meet a beautiful smart girl who has all the qualities you are looking for you cant really judge her on that.. the past is the past... Its not like we're in the 1940's and 1950's girls are having alot more sex today and they are starting off young..

Well I dont doubt that theory at all... I have a few friends that are girls, that were parrty animals.. and they have settled down and who would never guess that they lived that life..

but in a lot of cases guys and girls need to go crazy and party before they settle down..

Airpole.2010-08-12T18:02:08Z

It is as GC has said. Even if asked, a woman will lie of her previous experiences.

Your question however touches a very soft issue in most European societies.

The woman who knowingly in a small community, has had too many partners will be avoided by the male population of that community, yet, those women manage to have very successful marriages with people who may have not known of their past and unless there is malicious intent in informing them, they have a good life.

I had long time ago a relation with a young woman in a small Greek town and she was commonly thought as a slut that she had jumped into too many beds. Yet, that woman, apart from being easy to make a relation she was anything but easy. In fact she was virgin and she remained so after our affair too.Well, that woman had dug her own grave. I met her 10 years later and she still was unmarried. In the same town, I had another encounter with someone else, supposedly innocent as a lamb. Only, she was the grey bad wolf. She had it all. In just about the same period later, I found her a respectful member of the community with a (happy?) marriage in her life.

This goes to show what the personal handling of your love life may result into. And examples of that are countless. In fact, is all a matter of proper handling of personal circumstances, that make a woman acceptable for marriage regarding her past experiences.

In talking in numbers, a minimum of 1 or 2 previous lovers without the full details may be considered acceptable for some. For others, even themselves are one too many for their women to have had relations with.

Zoi2010-08-11T14:38:35Z

There isn't such a thing in Greece...acceptable partners...
It is quite embarrassing to think that one asks his beloved girlfriend
_'With how many men have you slept with?' _'Just three honey' _'Ok then. You have quite good chances to get a marriage proposal by me'.
A young woman in Greece has her property and her work, is educated and fully able to take after herself, it's not like women here are dying for the prince to come and 'save' them, men have often very little to offer, unless you really love them.
And this is the case and not how many tries a woman have made to have a relationship.
I have never seen anybody warring about past relationships of their woman or asking such a thing, according to my knowledge at least.
Greeks marry at a late age you can say, even women, so they are quite mature to know what they want and quite mature to judge the person they are marrying to. Greeks are in general very committed to their family.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage#Europe

thedoctor2010-08-12T10:05:57Z

Actually that depends on the person. I certainly wouldn't touch a woman who's "been around", so to speak. I think that's disgusting.

Anonymous2010-08-12T02:48:54Z

And how would the guy know how many partners she had before marriage? Is he going to ask her " oh honey how many men have you slept with ?" or smth? LMAO

Women nowadays are thirsty for sex , mind you, they are the ones chasing the males , men do not chase them anymore.

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