Why can't he or won't he admit that he has feelings for me or at least let me move on?

First off this is probably going to be very long so if you're not going to read it move on now. Those that do read it all thank you.

I'm 17 almost 18, i'm openly gay and i'm in love with my best friend have been sense I was 12. We have been friends sense age 6. I came out to him when I was 13 and told him I liked him as more than a friend. He told me that he was flattered and wished he felt the same but he's straight. Which would have been fine if things didn't change between us.

Like when we were 14, I was spending the night at his house and I woke up to him watching me sleep. I asked why he was watching me sleep and he said that he couldn't help it that i'm just so perfect he kissed me, I stopped him and he said he just wants to hold me. So I let him and it was sweet and felt right, then the next day he said it was a mistake and that he's straight.

Then when I was 15 he was helping me tie a tie and he kissed me again and when I brought it up later he said he was just caught in the moment that it didn't mean anything. After that kiss we started to flirt with each other all the time and it was fine except anytime a guy showed an interest in me he got all jealous.

Then I met a guy who I really liked, he hated him of course but things with him were good. I was moving on and then he said something to him which made him break up with me. He then told me that he would never be good enough for me.

Its gotten a lot worse sense then now he says stuff like he'll never be me or you'll never have with him what we have. Like at prom last year when we were dancing together he whispered in my ear that he'll(my date that really liked me) never love me like I do(meaning him) but then when I try to start something with him he'll say he is straight or that he doesn't feel the same or way or that he was just caught in the moment. But he won't let me move on, hell I went on a date last week and he showed up like he called and changed the reservation from 2 to three.

Then the next day when we were shopping he started to kiss my neck and I stopped him and he acted like I was over reacting. I walked away from him and haven't talked to him sense. The thing I don't get is he clearly likes me but can't admit it and I don't get that. I mean his parents are extremely accept, his older sister is gay so they are super accept hell they were taking him gay pride when he was 4. All of are friends are accepting most think we'll end up together anyway. So why can't he just admit that he isn't straight?

Please help I don't know what to do, he keeps calling or showing up and i've ignored or avoid him but I can't keep going on like this. What do I do? My brother told me to give him and ultimate either admit how he feel or let me move on should I? Please Help I know this is complicated but please help! or at least try

No matter what I still want him in my life I mean he has always been there for me and I can't imagine my life without him.

2010-09-24T08:03:22Z

Sorry to ask again just really need more advice

2010-09-24T08:30:00Z

oh and he is single he has only ever been on one date and that was double with me and he manged to get ride of both our dates.

2010-09-24T08:39:59Z

Brady he has no brothers just his sister and so normal straight guys make out with other guys? and tell them they want to rip their cloths off with their teeth?

2010-09-24T08:44:31Z

People
I'm not cuting him out of my life, if this why all he did then yes I would but it isn't. He is my best friend, he was there for me when my grandparents died when all I wanted to do was stay in bed he was right there with me. When I was in the hospital he was there as soon as they would let him in and stayed until they kicked him out. He stood up for me when so idiot called me a queer, he was the first person to tell me when my second best friend was spreading rumors about me.

2010-09-24T09:01:40Z

Brady re-read the question
I never said anything about a hug, I mention him telling me i'm perfect and kissing me and touching me and me stopping it and him saying that he did wants to hold me and then the next day him saying it was a mistake. Him telling me that no guy will ever love me like he does or that i'll never have what we have with another guy. I also mentioned slow dancing, no where did I mention a hug. So reread the question cause clearly you're missing it.

john bon2010-09-24T08:20:22Z

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This is long but just as long as you have good enlgish I don't mind reading it haha; Ok sounds like he's pulling a Hannah Montana...he's trying to get the best of both worlds. People like that, who don't know what they want, or can't make a commitment, you need to leave him at once (not your friendship, and I don't mean psychically) but leave the idea that you two should be together. He really wants to do something, it is sooooo painfully clear, BUT at the same time I think he's terrified at the stigma that will always be there with being gay, and if you two would date (therefore making it public) he would then have to justify not so much to his family and friends but to the WORLD and ADMIT he's gay (and he just doesn't know for sure). So don't put pressure on him, tell him if he isn't going to date you then to back off your dates, and in the meantime try to help him with his emotions and feelings. One day he'll come around, it isn't so much society, it is what is going on INSIDE HIM that's the problem. He can't face the music, and most of us can't.

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AS2010-09-24T08:33:01Z

Well, boy you have to take thing in your hands not his.

i've got a plan for you : so this is it

1. Let him meet you in your home at night when your family is out or something ?
2. Get a movie and heat up some popcorn and get a soda and a wipe cream.
3. The movie must be funny and it must be something you both have seem before. In the middle of the movie take the wipe cream and spray it all over him and run have a food fight.
4. then you say " stop stop i give up " come lets clean the mess up . go near him and them hold him from the back and lick and kiss the wipe cream off him. 2 things might happen
1. he kisses you back because he loves you 2. he get angry because he love to be in control

1. if he kisses you back then go with the flow take off his shirt and kiss and all that but no ******** or sex. then tell him to stop tell him that if he's straight why is he doing this tell him that if he wants more to tell you and admit he's bi or gay or you the perfect guy for him. and then see what he has to say if he says yes I'm gay then cuddle, no sex or anything sexual

2. if he gets angry tell him it did not mean anything there was a moment and you were caught in it . lol

5. the next day tell him if he want to be with you or not and if he kisses you again that you will not be his friend anymore , stop playing games with me enough is enough

i hope this helps
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Anonymous2010-09-24T08:23:15Z

Your brother's idea is good. Your friend is in denial and you need to kick him out of it or tell him to leave you alone. He obviously has pretty strong feelings for you so if you make him come out he'll probably do it. If he says he's straight just tell him straight guys don't repeatedly kiss a gay guy over a several year span.

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Many girls break up with their significant others, is because they need time to figure things out. Don't take it personally, if you want her back, you have to show her you can help her. If you love her then you'll let her go, that's it. Not everybody who you date in high school you end up staying with, the chances are extremely unlikely. So if she doesn't want to, then you need to let her go.

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Brian S2010-09-24T08:39:38Z

I agree with your brother, you need to give this guy an ultimatum. If he is unable or unwilling to admit his feelings for you, then you are going to have to step up and walk away from him. You say you need him in your life, but he is not doing you any favors by leading you on only to push you away and say he made a mistake or got caught up in the moment. I've never heard of straight guys kissing their male friends because they got caught up in the moment, it just doesn't happen. He's clearly into you, but if he's not willing to admit it, then you need to move on and find someone who will. Good luck whatever you do.

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