Why can't I figure it out...?

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I am 20 yrs old almost 21 and a US soldier. I am a virgin and I've only dated one girl and it only lasted maybe 2 months. I've got no experience with this stuff. But I'm lagging behind. I have no idea what to do. People I've met will tell me "I have no idea how your single" yet even with that I can't work it out. I'm the nicest guy ever and maybe nice guys do finish last or something. I understand I'm an introvert but even today for example I spent a few hrs with a girl at a falcons game. I know her name and such we sat next to each other and talked a bit but I couldn't get the balls to ask her number and then like that it was over. Would it be weird to find her on facebook and add her? We are both stationed same base. I mean stuff like this though other then today the last 5years I haven't had any luck with anything including online. I've stooped low enough to try there what am I doing wrong. I can't keep living like this I get depressed thinking about how much of a loser I am. And tired of people heckling me for getting no where. Why is it so hard ... Please help

2010-11-07T16:57:33Z

Alright well its not even really about this girl so to speak, i just mean in general, I cant get my **** together, and yeah sure i am freaking a bit and I understand i need to calm the heck down but its hard, i mean everyday im moving closer and closer into a dead end. And I want to get out but I have no idea what I'm doing, or how to even do it!

#1bob · Accepted Answer

First of all, with all do respect, I think you should calm down a little. In your question you seemed rather desperate man; Calm down Bro. It's okay, everything is going to be okay. You're putting too much thought into it. You are an introvert like you said so it's a good chance you're making this so much more bigger than it really is. Add the girl to your Facebook, nothing wrong with that. I have a relative who didn't have balls to ask a girl for her number, but later asked someone else who knew her for it if it was okay, so he got her email first actually, later her number...long story short, they're married.

I'm not saying this is definitely going to happen to you to with this girl you meet, but it's okay if you didn't get her number. If she adds you to Facebook she does, if she doesn't, who cares! Go to the next girl and start over. The more pressure you put on yourself the more it's not going to happen. Relax man, relax.

Why can't I figure it out...?

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