Why should being emotionally/mentally abusive to your spouse be a crime?
First of all, i just do not understand this stupid stuff of being emotionally/mentally abused. Yes you can be emotionally/mentally hurt, may be just like you can be verbally and physically hurt. But that is your own problem and you got to deal with it in personal level.
For e.g You can say you are hurt with a some body publishing cartoons and you may indeed be correct. But then that is your problem since we the society/law we live under has been structured that way.
So while emotionally/mentally hurt is something happens and is often made out to look like emotionally/mentally abusive, My question is even if it is abuse why the hell is at made a crime by law, atleast once you already have the option of divorce and quit.
2010-11-16T22:52:57Z
Rhonda..You are incorrect. I have been through marriage and through heart breaks blah blah. I was indeed mentally/emotionally hurt, but never once did i think that i was being abused and that my partner should be held as a criminal for causing mental/emotional hurt.
As for some others If you threaten somebody with life or jail time, it is a threat(a bloody real life threat) and does not even come close to being called a mental/emotional abuse.
Some of responses are so naive that i have to point them out to the difference between a "threat" and a "mental/emotional hurt".
?2010-11-16T22:50:25Z
I have never heard of someone going to jail for emotional abuse, but this is a reason for people actually getting divorce, usually on the divorce papers people must state why they want the divorce and they will say it's because of emotional abuse, so your statement is not really accurate. And when parents abuse children emotionally they might turn out rebellious, insecure, or even commit suicide or turn to drugs, because of a low self-esteem, so there really is much more to emotional abuse than just between 2 people.
lol, so you think someone who would abuse you throughly and aggressively even threaten your life a few times as ok to just walk throughly in society and redoing this kind of disgusting act towards plenty of their partners? Many abused victims would tell you that they'd take a punch over the mental crap any day. I used to be a bulimic, so I understand emotional abuse (even if I was the one who was abusing myself), it's not fun and anyone who does this to someone else should face the law. People can be seriously traumatized from such abusive relationships.
A healthy relationship is about supporting and loving your spouse, how is emotionally abusing them a proof of such love and affection? By your logic "My question is even if it is abuse why the hell is at made a crime by law, atleast once you already have the option of divorce and quit.", rape within the sanctity of marriage shouldn't be a crime either because hell, you can divorce the bloody fu*ker. If you're mean enough to abuse someone, than you should face the full wrath of the law that'll punish you.
Well, there are conditions in which a person can be emotionally/mentally abused - constant harping on one theme is one (nagging), up to and including non-physical threatening. An excellent example of that is when you are disagreeing with a cop who wants to roust you wrongfully for running a red light (bad hair day, need to make quota, scoreboard with the boys/girls back at the station - hernh-hernh, I got fifteen guys today for jay-walking and you only got fourteen - and he/she, without actually threatening you, intimates that if you don't agree with them, you'll cop it.
Such things can apply to both sides of marital relationships - The Boss here is much more prone to leap to physical and non-physical threats to get her way than I am - I just go on strike. (Aside - did you know that, these days in NSW, if you exercise passive resistance by simply not co-operating, you will be charged with 'resisting arrest'? Get it straight, Pilgrims! Oppressive society! Individual has zero rights!).
So yes - it does exist, but I guess it's just a bit hard to prove (since when has anything The Guv wanted 'proven' ever been hard in a court here?), so it's not on the statute books. Just in DV court, where the sage judge nods while biting the pillow for PC by blithely accepting any suggestion that it may have occurred - but only when that suggestion is offered by a woman. DV court wasn't intended to be fair, you know!
It's NOT a crime. Where is it crime? Where on this earth can someone be convicted of "emotionally abusing" their spouse and go to jail? Or even pay a fine for it?