Is it common to "out" people when introducing them?

My daughter, A, who is heterosexual, went to a gay/lesbian event last Saturday with her best friend, B, who is lesbian. B recently broke up with her partner. The partner has been jealous of the relationship between my daughter and B since they first met. She always introduces my daughter as "A, she's straight." She appeared to go out of her way introducing A to as many people as she could at this event Saturday. My daughter is very upset.

Is this a cultural thing we need to be aware of? My friendships have always been diverse. I've never been introduced this way in any gathering. For example, at a Catholic christening, I wasn't introduced as, "This is my friend, she's Methodist."

2011-03-15T21:58:46Z

Tonto, my daughter is 45. She doesn't need mommy's permission.

What I was trying to say and was too worried about insulting someone...the woman is jealous of my daughter and makes every effort to embarrass her. We are not used to this kind of behavior. We've had gay friends as long as I can remember. No one has ever identified my sexual preference when introducing me to a new friend. But you are all of a different generation. I didn't know if this was something new...a time saver if you will...my daughter doesn't think so and neither do I, but I was curious and looking for answers from a broader community.

Remy2011-03-14T19:38:41Z

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If the event was geared towards gays and lesbians, I can understand the impulse that would make her introduce your daughter as straight. Many straight men and women might feel uncomfortable getting hit on by members of the same sex, so she was probably just trying to say to those people, "Hey, she's off-limits and we're not here as a couple." If your daughter is upset, she should talk to her friend about it. Obviously, in a mixed group, you wouldn't go around telling everyone your sexual orientation, but in this case there was good reason for others to assume that your daughter was a lesbian, so her friend just wanted to keep things clear.

?2011-03-14T19:38:57Z

She is protecting your daughter from being attacked of lesbians. Means she cares about her feeling comfortable... at least, those girls will already know that , A is not available. I think she's just trying to avoid uncomfortable situations... she cares about ut daughter, so that's why..

?2011-03-14T20:01:42Z

The real question is; why do you let your daughter attend these events with her?

Anonymous2014-06-22T21:11:43Z

Grow up.