Please help me! I cannot get a guy to like me to save my life! I'm an attractive youg girl. Many say I look like a European high-fashion model. I'm not being vain, I think I'm just average looking, it's other people who tell me different. I have short, short, SHORT brown hair. (It's REALLY short, some people think I'm a boy from behind when I'm not dressed in normal clothes.) I am very shy to people I don't know, but once I'm comfortable I am honest (sometimes brutally so) and a pretty good friend. I can have a mean streak though. So, what I don't know is, why don't guys show interest in me? I'm pretty, generally kind, though no talking much, is that my problem? I'm also very athletic (All-ohio in cross country and track and i do basketball) and very smart (genius IQ and I've never gotten a B on a report card). Some say men are intimidated by me but I just don't think that could be it. SOMEONE PLEASE!!!
Anonymous2011-03-15T17:38:14Z
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you find love in the most unexpected places..dont wait for it, it'll come to you once its time...i know i sound like some cheesy fairy godmother but its true, you'll find the right guy one day, trust me, till then just enjoy life and dont spend it just waiting.
Ya I used to have really short hair, and now it's really long and guys always tell me they like it better. A lot of guys just prefer that for some reason.
Also, being smart AND athletic are both very intimidating to some guys. My boyfriend tells me ALL the time that he gets scared when we have conversations because I'm "smarter" haha.
If you have a lot going for you, guys may just assume they don't have a chance.
If you become a little less shy and approach people more, they will see your interest and it will make them feel more confident since you went up to them. But also like that other person said - once you stop worrying about thing,s they just finally seem to happen
Perhaps you need to relax about yourself a bit. For some strange reason guys can sense desperation! I'm not kidding. Confidence is the key to attraction. beware of arrogance it turns guys off. Instead be peaceful and confident. istead of thinking i need to get a guy think, how can I be friends with someone, what can I bring to the relationship. if you think of others before yourself you will oozes love and confidence which will be attractive, no matter how good you look or how athletic you are if your personality stinks guys won't hang around for long...unless they want something from you..eg sex. but if you want a long-term relationship then work on your confidence, liking yourself is the best place to start, not in a haughty way but just knowing and being a nice person. and relax, have patience, romance isn't born over night no matter what the movies say. just try being friends first then naturally romance will follow and if you are not stressing about it you will enjoy it more!
Well I can tell you that it is very intimidating for guys to approach girls. If you are as you say then you probably have plenty of guys who are interested, but for whatever reason are not getting the vibe that you are attainable for them. They don't want to be rejected either.
Tell one of your girlfriends about a guy you like and have her tell him that you are interested. That way you don't have to worry about being shy.
Try to be friendly towards guys that you like and let them know that it is ok to talk to you. If they are trying to impress you or make you laugh, even if it is corny, go along with it a little bit and let them know that you like their attention.