Okay, I have this friend I met just a few months ago. slowly we got closer and became great friends.
but every time we hang out I feel like she is flirting with me, she has a boyfriend but it just seems like she drops hints. she says she loves me, touches my stomach, always wants to hang out. but I don't if she is just playing or what?
cruiserguyCO
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Be VERY careful. Many girls derive their self-esteem and feelings of self-worth from the knowledge that they are desirable to a man, or men. By sending small signals your way she may just be trying to gauge your reaction to see if you're going to boost her ego by showing that into her. The fact that she already has a boyfriend and isn't moving towards splits-ville with him may indicate that you are just a piece of meat that she's playing with to prove to herself that she's still got the goods to make a man fall for her.
Don't let her play you! It might be tough, but when she gets flirty don't be receptive or encourage her. By all means, still be polite and friendly, but avoid situations where it seems like she's sending you signals. When she tries to get close, keep your distance. When she says she loves you, just smile and say "thanx." When she wants to hang out pretend your busy, or keep it super light and casual. Don't spend time with her alone. Hang out in public, or with other friends and divide your attention between her and other people. Make it clear that she's not number 1 in your world. Make comments about her BF in a positive way. Don't be disrespectful. Just remind her that you're aware that he's part of the picture. If you do this right, one of two things will happen that will prove her true intentions one way or the other.
If she backs off and starts paying less attention to you, or even leaves you high-and-dry or starts ignoring you, don't sweat it. It may suck to feel like you're being abandoned by someone you care about who you thought was your friend, but I promise you, she wasn't, and it was never going any farther. She was just using you to boost her ego. Once she's realized that you aren't going to be a little fish on her hook she'll want to move on to other waters to find another boy to take the bait. Believe me. You just saved yourself a lot of pain and grief.
If she seems hurt or confused AND still wants to hang out with you just as much and maybe asks you questions about your change in behavior, then maybe there are some true feelings there on her part. If that happens you need to talk to her and tell her how you really feel. Tell her she's sending mixed signals and if she's really your friend you deserve to know where you stand with her. Lay it on the line and DON'T back down. She's already demonstrated that she isn't entirely sure what she wants by flirting with you even though she has a BF, so you might not get a straight answer, but don't let that throw you. Stick to your guns.
Tell her that if she want's to be your friend that's fine, but that's all you're into and she needs to cool off a little bit. But, if she wants more then that's great! She just has to chose between you and her BF.
Girls are tricky in these situations. a lot of times It seems like they don't know what they want because honestly they don't. They just want what feels good and sometimes that just means getting attention from men. They truly don't realize that they're being manipulative. It's OK to cut her some slack, but don't get yanked around! Stand your ground and hold her to a high standard of honesty and fair play. You deserve that much at least.
I'm pullin for ya man. If you stick up for yourself she has to respect you. If she doesn't than she never even deserved to be your friend in the first place. I hope it doesn't come to this, but be prepared to cut her off if it turns out she's playing you. That kind of girl is poison and will suck the life out of you without even blinking. She might even have such a big ego that she thinks she's doing you a favor by giving you extra attention even though she doesn't think you deserve it. Almost like she feels like a rich woman giving a stray dog scraps from her table. Don't be a dog.
Be a man and be respectful, but BE CAREFUL!
wininger
Umm my ultimate friends confident, yet even however i admire the ladies I hold close out with, I wouldn't totally believe them. It sounds terrible yet i understand for a actuality that they now and back gossip approximately one yet another. the two way is say I truthfully have some friends who're the two honest climate friends and a few who're like sisters to me.
Anonymous
First :
you decide ,you likes her yes or no
if your answer yes then be care full.Because 69.99% boys is cheater in world
but i am a boy and my think is different type.
in this case :your think is important, most important .
I gives you some questions and you collect answers all of them.
after when you find answer
you will decide Correctly OK
Now
Q1.what is your think about that?
Q2.when you see ,he touch you then what's feel you?
Q3.if he really love you then he is accepted all condition for find you?
Q4.you will try about every think know ,to related her,friend, family,etc.
If you are find any weak point then ,he is cheater and decide,whats you want.
Q5.finally you tell her what you think about that
this is your own decision
and my personal experience ?
because my girl friend cheats me and i lost him
but i really love her?
but you are very care full.
Have a nice day
Ok bye
My English is weak, then i am sorry.
Name-Sunny
from india
Anonymous
this is sucks 4 u cuz youre getting mixed signals right? well it all depends. is she like this only around you? if she is she might like you. but if she goes around doing that to everyone she meets. ( lol goes up to a random guy and starts rubbing his belly ) then well u get the idea
lovekooks
hmmm wait until her and the boyfriend break up, because if she does have feeelings and you make a move, then that would be cheating. cheating is AWFUL