Well today i told my two sons that if they clean the house we would go shopping for. school clothes and they were excited and left for work when i got back the older one was cleaning the kitchen and the younger one was playing video games i figured they just finished but the older told his brother come on man we gotta clean ryan and he said no dont tell me what to do your not my big brother just because your older and my sibling your not a brother to me at all and i said stop fighting or else and they didnt my older son cleaned the kitchen the bathroom my room his own room, swept and mopped the floor and proceded to do the laundry and he asked for his brother to help but it ended up in a fight so i said were not going anywere too bad you all can go to school with the same old smalll clothes you have and when my kids cry i get mad and tell them to not make a face and my older son just stood there with a blank expression and had tears falling from his face he wasnt red nothing just tears no sobbing no sound and my younger son just left and it hit me did i hurt him bad!!!??? This is the first time he cried about going somewhere i also think i spoil my younger son because i take him to the park and nature reserve all the time but he always excludes my older son when we all go so he stays home in his room and i guess he sleeps. One is 13 and the other is 11
Mia2011-08-06T10:33:42Z
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just explain to them that you didn't mean to hurt them and it was only because he didn't listen. promise to take them shopping again but only if your other son contributes. If not take your other son out for a treat since he listen and obeyed. and don't reward the son who didn't listen. tell him that he will get a reward the next time if he does what he is told.
You learn to be a parent.First you reward the older son for doing what he was supposed to and for trying to get his brother to do the same.You punish the younger one and tell him it is consequences for disobedience.You take his video game for a week,if he sasses you, make it a month.Next time your younger son hits you, take a belt and ware his butt out until his eyes cross, then ware it out again until his eyes uncross and tell him that is a consequence of his bad behavior which will no longer be tolerated.You are raising a monster and the older he gets the more out of control he will be, better take charge now while you can or you will be at his mercy in 3 yrs.
No. Your child is obviously addicted to the computer and video games. That's a horrible thing for someone to have, it makes them mute, socially awkward, and disturbed. You didn't do it with your verbal stuff, you did it by buying him all those video games. If he plays things like Mortal Combat or Call of Duty or anything violent, war related etc. then take them away because that's what starts it. Take the video and computer games away immediately tell him to play something else because my dad's friend basically has lost his son that way because he doesn't go to school anymore, make any friends, do anything but play video games in his room all because he played games like that and they basically brain-washed him. TAKE THOSE AWAY NOW I'M SERIOUS YOU'LL LOSE YOUR SON it's so sad what happened to my dad's friend's son. Really listen you'll lose him take away the video games and tell him to go outside or read a book because seriously that makes him slowly get better. You can also read this to tell if he is: http://www.commonsensemedia.org/advice-for-parents/setting-computer-limits-tips You can still fix it if you take action now.
Well, you're son was really looking forward to getting his new clothes. That's why he was working so hard. It's almost as if he worked for nothing. I would be really bummed if I was you're older son. He clearly wanted it and he worked hard for it. It's not fair to punish them both. If the younger child didn't want to help.
ur oldest son might feel like u dont appreciate everything he does around the house because that is how i feel sometimes with my parents. he worked really hard for what he wanted and u probably upset him by not going clothes shopping just because ur youngest didnt do anything
what i would do is i would take ur oldest shopping, reward him because to me he sounds like a good kid