Getting bf to understand hormonal inbalence.?

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ok! so this is going to be our second child. When we were pregnant with our first (who is now almost 2) we didn't starting living together until i was aobut 5 months along. so my bf didn't really know what the first trimester and first half of the 2nd was really like for me (terrible morning sickness, very cranky, exhausted all the time etc). HOWEVER, he has been a TOTAL prick to me lately becuase i have been moody and have a serious lack of motivation. I tried explaining what i'm going through and how i've been feeling but he just writes it off. 

on top of it all i had a NASTY flu bug for 6 days of last week so i was extra tired and admitingly did not really do a thing outside of working my 40hrs, taking care of our son and myself. dishes didn't get done for a few days, toys laying around when he got home from work etc. and i know that from his military background he likes things to be spick and span. but that's just not logical with a 2 year old running around and your pregnant gf being the one expected to get everything done!!!! at least not in my eyes. 

anyway, how do i get through to him and help him understand what i'm going through?????? we're fighting constantly and he made a comment yesterday that he's "irritated" with me and that if i "can't learning to be cleanly when he buys a house i won't be living there"

katsura3568 · Accepted Answer

So, you are pregnant, you work 40 hours a week and take care of a not quite 2 year old.

He works, and............... ?
If he likes things ****-and-span, why is he living with dirty dishes?  Did he lose his arms?

I really get irritated when men complain about women not doing things.   You may have agreed to a division of household chores, but that is not set in stone.  When one partner is down, the other needs to step in and cover.  That's how it works on the battlefield and in the workplace and that's how it should work in the home, too.  

If HE buys a house, who does he expect will clean it for him?  You?  Do you really want to be his maid and nanny or do you want a life partner who's going to have your back?

Anonymous · Answer

Unfortunately, you girls are ready to conceive pregnancy where ever you find anything hard. At first place, you should have married that person first and then conceived pregnancy. Right now, all you can do is tell him in blank words you are medically not fit to do all that. You are not feeling good.

Besides that, there is a lesson for every girl. Always select a man who is cool minded. Men with a spinning mind may look good but my experience is they always create problems at later stages. Now don't think I am pulling your boy friend's leg as I am living in a totally different part of the world. Let me tell you one thing, you had better get rid of him as soon as possible.

Getting bf to understand hormonal inbalence.?

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