Okay this may sound crazy. I met this girl in college. I am starting to really like this woman. Problem is....she is pregnant and already has 1 child(both the same guy). She said her kids dad is about nothing and treated her really bad. The second pregnancy came from basically a one night stand when they were seperated. Maybe she didn't want to run around trying to find something else idk. Question is would you continue this relationship with her or if you would.... How would you handle it? Thanks
2011-11-03T10:06:58Z
The father never comes around to see the first child.
2011-11-03T10:08:36Z
Oh and I have 3 kids of my own. Sorry should have been more specific
xK2011-11-03T09:56:30Z
I think I'd have to look at it from different angles. Do you know this guy? Is he really a deadbeat like she says? (Because if you two get together, he will always be in her life.) Is she truly over him? Do you feel threatened by him and the fact that he's always going to be around, potentially talking to her, etc.?
Then another thing to keep in mind is that pregnancy is a very hormonal, difficult time. If you are there for her, she may lash out at you or weep at something silly that you did. Are you going to ditch her at the first time? Do you know enough about pregnancy to feel strong enough for this? lol
And lastly, if you stick with her, you are automatically a father. Not biological, but you will be with her, meeting her kids, helping with the kids, maybe feeding the baby in the middle of the night. Are you ready for the responsibility? Do you feel you've lived enough life to get involved with a woman with children?
I'm not saying either way is right or wrong, but there are some serious things to consider before you decide on a relationship with her -- and very few of them have to do with her.
Bad news all the way around. SURE you like her! Other people do to. THAT'S WHY SHE'S PREGNANT!!!!. ANY woman who is pregnant and is NOT interested in trying to work it out with the child's father is of very low moral character. Any woman who is pregnant and trying to work it out with the child's father AND IS DATING SOMEONE ELSE is of even lower moral character.
There is NOTHING here for you!
FORGET ALL ABOUT HER. Find a woman and make your own children AFTER YOU GET MARRIED.
Be practical dude first make sure is she really the one. I mean c'mon...what if u take this relationship to a really serious level and suddenly start realize...no man she is not good enough!!! Thn u vl even treat the kids bad and even their mom and dn it would lead to a disaster. Rather make sure u really like her or even love her...dn u vl love the kids too :-)
Yes..this should not matter if u have feelings for her..if she was treated bad ..u should be very kind..who knows..u could become very attached to the baby..my daughter was with a man when her baby was weeks old..he latched right on to him..down the road she broke it off....he STIL!!! plays the daddy role..so yesss
I definitely wouldn't. Besides the fact that she has a kid and one on the way, her and the ex still sleep together. I seriously doubt it was a one night stand, she probably still loves the guy.