Is my boyfriend controlling? 10 points?
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. We've been through a lot together, which I thought made us stronger.
Recently, I've seriously been questioning whether my boyfriend is controlling or not. All of my friends tell me he is... but they have a biased opinion. I wanted to ask you guys (unbiased) what you think.
Below, I've written a list of things he does.
1.) He doesn't like me going out with my friends. He wont let me use the car if I want to see my friend of 14 years. He says he doesn't want to "waste gas". But he will drive to another city on weekends, to see his friends.
2.) He throws a tantrum over little things. This morning, I woke up, at I wasn't even awake for 15 MINUTES, before he got mad at me for not going out to get cigarettes for us. I have work later today, and I just wanted to relax.
3.) He owns everything we have in our apartment. This computer I'm typing on? He bought it. My phone? His. TV? His. Literally everything I have, he bought. I thought at first that this was him being sweet... but now he holds it over my head.
4.) Out of the 2 of us, I'm the only one with a job. He has a savings account, with quite a bit of money and doesn't need to work. I only get a $200 paycheck a month, and I'm trying to help out with the bills. But he insists I work harder to get what we need. (This is one of our biggest problems, because I'm the only one with a job. I feel he doesn't have the right to tell me to 'work harder', when I'm the only one working. I've left school to continue working, while he's still in College. )
5.) He says HORRIBLE things to me when we get in fights. He tells me that I'm acting like a child for crying, that I'm a b****, that he doesn't feel loved, etc. Even last night, I spent 45 minutes in front of the stove, cooking his dinner. I made sure he ate first, because he was really hungry. I also baked him a cake afterwords. My dinner, was a microwavable dish of mac-n-cheese, that took 4 minutes to make. I don't understand how he can say that I don't love him, when I pour my heart and soul into making him happy.
6.) He constantly reminds me that he can leave whenever he wants.
7.) He's broken up with my once, after cheating on me, and I forgave him. But he acts like he'll do it again.
8.) He complains that I'm "always mad", when I feel like I just can't talk to him without consequences.
9.) He hardly pays attention to me, but demands my full attention.
10. ) He makes things vague. If I need to drive to work, he'll tell me that he's taking the car to see friends, and might not be back in time to get me to work.
I hope you guys will have some answers for me.
I appreciate your time, and want to thank you in advance.