Do any of you have advice for this moron?

I asked this question earlier but got no replies. So here it goes. A couple of months ago, I started going out with this girl. We had a couple of dates and I really started to like her and she really started to like me. I thought things were great until she said she's moving out of state at that point I thought "okay". After I asked her about it she said that we were going to stop dating but that maybe sometime in the future things might pick up again. So stupid me decided to keep in touch with her. It finally got to the point where I resolved to getting rid of the pictures and a stupid little sweater I bought. She texts me and I say I'm getting some stuff and she asks if I'm getting rid of the pictures and sweater...I ask her why and she says she's still holding on to them. Now keep in mind, this is a month after she said we aren't dating anymore. She then says that while we may not have anything between us now, she said we most likely will in the future. "A glimmer of hope" I thought and decided to hold onto them just a tad longer...now I find out she wants to get back with her ex(I assume he dumped her) and she says she still wants to be friends. I told her how I felt about all that(maybe I shouldn't have done it) and now I just feel lost...relieved but still lost.

I know I'll get over it, that this is temporary, and I'll move on, but it just sucks......

What do you all think?

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I think both you and her ex were anchors for her, and that she felt she could always depend on one of you holding her into a relationship. And that is why she wanted you to hold onto those past possessions that were part of your relationship with her. Until and unless she is willing to commit fully to you, then don't expect her to do anything other than to zig zag back and forth between the two of you.