I was wondering how it is that you can separate nudity from being sexual. I have tried it, but if you say that our parts aren't sexual, then that would't that make sex pretty boring. I feel that our body parts are part of what turns us on during sex. How can you have a sexual thought but not think of the naked body while doing it? This is just me but when I see a girl that is attractive, its just not her face, hair, body, and personality that turns me on. It also tends to be breasts too, but I could care less about what they look like, its just breast in general that turn me on. So how do you do it?
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The key to distinguishing between sexual nudity and nonsexual nudity is simply getting used to nonsexual nudity. The way society conditions us to think about nudity, the only time we ever see or experience it is in a sexual situation. Look at TV, for example. Nudity is never shown because of broadcast standards, of course, and implied nudity is only ever used when characters are in a sexual situation (or once in a while when a character is in the shower). Other than when having sex, show characters in bed are always clothed in pajamas or other bed clothes of some sort. If there's ever any other reference to nudity it's always done in a way that treats it with taboo, shock, amusement, sexual thrill or something similar; never is it just nudity because that's how a person is most comfortable.
Nudists get used to nudity and the various body parts as nonsexual by experiencing nudity, either alone or in a social nudist situation. I personally started alone, breaking through my terrible phobias about nudity to become comfortable with it, which then struck down the mental association of "nudity = sex" I grew up with. I went nude as much as situations allowed, enjoying the pure comfort and mental liberation it provided. Since I was in my teens I still experienced frequent sexual arousal, but that was unrelated to my nudism and always happened before I ever started experimenting with nudity. Nudity didn't make any situation sexual; being horny made any particular moment sexual. Most of the time, however, my nudity was completely nonsexual and perfectly comfortable. By the time I made my first visit to a naturist resort, my first social nudist experience ever, it was absolutely nonsexual because I was used to nonsexual nudity as perfectly normal and natural, my intent for being there was nonsexual, and everyone else's intent for being there was nonsexual.
For other people whose very first start into nudism happens at a nudist resort or other nudist setting, mentally it will start out for them to be quite sexual because that's how their minds have always been conditioned to think. Once the experience teaches them nudity is not automatically sexual and the mental damage gets undone, from then on they are able to see the distinction between nonsexual nudity, such as in a naturist setting, and sexual nudity, such as an intimate moment in private.
It's not that nudists stop being able to see sexiness and sexual arousal in the nude body and various fun parts, which would make sex boring. Instead, nudists see the nude body and those parts as much more than just a sexual thing. Naturists/nudists see nudity, the nude body, and those various body parts as perfectly natural, very beautiful, and just one part of the whole person. As I often say, nudists see individuals as a whole person, not just a collection of fun body parts.
To answer your question of how I do it (and I speak only for myself), when I see an attractive nude woman I do see her as sexy and sexually appealing, but I also see her nude body and her sexy body parts as beautifully natural regardless of sexual appeal and view her pretty much as an exquisite work of art. When looking at tasteful nude artwork and photos (non-pornographic), a small portion of my mind still sees that as sexy but that is far outweighed by the rest of my mind which sees it as incredibly beautiful, tasteful, natural, and artistic.
There is a definite distinction between nonsexual nudity and sexual nudity, and it requires an open and analytical mind to see all sides of it rather than just thinking, "oooh, naked and sexy!"
I think that's the way we've been conditioned to think. My first trips to nudist resorts, I had a fear of the sexual feelings coming out but then again, I was too nervous to get an erection. But eventually, I found that I wasn't even thinking of the sexual aspect of nudity. I'm also more turned on by touch than just seeing boobs or *** so I'm different than you are in that respect.
Your body is beautiful and sexual at the same time. The key is that the nudist is more mature and can separate the two sides more clearly. Also the nudist is not prudish about his body and seeing others naked as well. So they tend to not have the same reactions (erections) or shyness about the nude body.
We've become conditioned to associate nudity with sex, and being nude has become so rare that sex is the only time most people see each other that way. When seeing each other undressed is common when we're doing other things, the association breaks down and we simply see comfortable friendly people who accept themselves and each other simply as they and we are. Sexuality is a lot more subtle than just seeing what each other looks like, decorated up, or plain.
We are a nudist family living in Europe and I am 14. Its wrong to associate nudity with sex..I never get excited looking my sisters nude breast or mum's vagina for that matter..We live in a matured society and we can clearly distinguish with whom we get sexually attracted or not .