Our son has full physical custody of his four children. Whenever they visit their mother for her weekend, our son or us (their paternal grandparents) never call to check on them or interrupt their time together. As soon as they come back to us she texts us continually from morning til evening. I am the children's paternal grandmother & I work nights. I am continually woke up by continual text or cell phone ringing. She feels she can demand to talk to the children anytime. She has no limits. No matter what we are doing ie. having dinner, helping children with homework, having some fun time, she is texting & demanding to talk to them. They get on the phone & she never just talks with them she puts them throught the 3rd degree. Please help as this is making us ill. By-the-way, she lost custody of them & the $1,100/mo. child support for cutting RX sleep medication in 1/2 & other times forcing them to drink adult NyQuil. She is trying to get them back claiming the children hate us & are scared to death of us. We just want our time & let her have her time. Help us!
Lone Cat2013-04-23T15:37:10Z
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Legally I don't think there's anything you can do. If you can prove harassment then you might be able to get a court order. But to be harassment it must be extreme, and it's hard to prove.
The mother has some very serious and very deep emotional problems. You can't fix her. So the only thing you can do is deal with her. There are ways to HANDLE a person like this. I suspect you already know some ways to do that.
The most important thing is to remain calm. If you get upset or angry, then she's going to immediately over react. The natural thing to do is to get angry at her. But that will never get you what you want. You need to fight the impulse to be angry, even when she's angry or when she does abusive things to you.
There are some self help books and web sites that can help you with this. Check out a book called "stop walking on egg shells", and I think there are now web sites and videos to go along with the book.
Don't mistake my book recommendation for a diagnosis. I have no way of knowing what kind of mental disorder this women has. But, even though the book is written specifically for borderline personality disorder, many of the techniques can be applied to almost any situation.
Since your son has full physical custody of the children then the only person she should be calling about the children is him...All the court order requirements are between your son and her..
So you have no legal obligation to even speak with her at anytime if you do not wish to do so... Simply tell her to stop calling you and call the father...
If she continues then take your cell phone with all the texts and incoming calls list to the police department and file a criminal complaint against her for Harassment, then file a petition with the court for a restraining order which means she can have no contact at all with you nor can she come within a certain distance of you (usually 250 feet). If she violates the restraining order she goes to jail...
a million/2 of my coronary heart has been ripped out via my son and the different a million/2 is a broken and bleeding. I have not have been given any grip on the situation and little or no carry on the final shard of my sanity