Would a woman marry a man even if she's in love with someone else?

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I dated a girl who left her ex boyfriend of 4 years for me(they were each other's first loves). We were together for about a year and a half and we had good times. We had an intense passion for each other. We couldn't resist each other. We were in love. We even discussed getting married someday. She wanted it sooner, while I wanted to wait until I was done with college and had my career going. Recently, she broke up with me, and I found out that she got engaged to her ex while she was dating me!! Turns out she never really stopped seeing him, but she didn't want to get rid of me either. I talked to her to today and she told me that she is still in love with me, but that she can't talk to me anymore in order to make things in her current engagement work. I asked her if she really had wanted to marry me, and she said that she did at one point. She told me that reality eventually hit her and she realized that there was no way we'd make it that far (because she thought my family wouldn't allow me to marry her due to their hatred for her, and because I didn't want to get married until later in life). However, she said that she just couldn't let me go. So could a woman actually marry a man even if she truly wanted someone else? Was she waiting for a commitment from me and just took his offer because she assumed she wouldn't get it from me? And why does she still confess that she's in love with me?

-Also, I don't want her back or anything, but I also don't want her out of my life completely. I was in love with her.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Another young woman who is in love with the idea of marriage.

I think you answered your own question. It looks like being married was more important to her than the man involved. If you had been willing, it might have been you.

Horrible thought, eh?

You dodged a bullet, my friend. Look for her divorce notice. It won't be that long coming - well unless she has now moved her interest into having babies, That might give it another year. But when all the new wears off, my guess is she will see that she should have paid more attention to who she chose. And then she'll be just another statistic.

High Roller · Answer

Yes, she could.  This woman wants to get married and you want to wait longer than she's willing to wait.  There's nothing wrong with her not wanting to wait around for you.  You don't even give her a reasonable time frame.  You just want to wait until later in life and for a woman who's ready for marriage, that's not an acceptable plan.  She did want to marry you, but the other offer is probably better for her, because you aren't ready for marriage and because of the drama in your family.  If you truly love her, you'll step back and let her find happiness with her fiance.  He obviously loves her too and is ready for marriage, whereas you are not.  Either she's going to be out of your life or in your life.  The idea of you not wanting her out of your life completely is a game you don't need to play.   You don't want her back; so care enough to let her go.

i + i · Answer

Personally, it does not sound like 
she's truly in love with either of you.

? · Answer

women are just plain stupid,,get a dog

Would a woman marry a man even if she's in love with someone else?

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