I chose to keep my baby and consider adoption instead od going through with an abortion. My mom called me cold hearted for considering adoption for my baby even though my sister has had 3 abortions including the one she had about a week ago and all my mom said about that was that she isn't ready ... and was completely supportive of it.. Im deeply hurting because I thought choosing life for my daughter rather than aboarding her was right because it felt right. I thought of the act of abortion and everything set wrong with my nerves and feelings of taking the potential life away from another. It hurt me to think of doing that to someone and I couldn't go through with it. I wanted life and thought I did the right thing. But now im 6 months pregnant and my mom said that to me and im just in tears.. I put alota thought into my decision and she brushed it off pretty much calling me cold hearted..selfish.. what do i do..
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It's a personal choice.
I wanted to parent but was coerced into surrendering. Knowing from personal experience how devastating adoption is (I suffer with severe depression, have been suicidal, and have self harmed) I would abort over surrendering but I should have been supported in my choice to parent.
You may be fine with surrendering but you don't know until you do it. You may even change your mind after having your baby.
Wow, your mom has no right to say that to you! It's your decision, not hers. I think what you are doing is quite UNselfish. I did not have the strength to go through that when I got pregnant. I have never regretted my abortion, but every woman's circumstance is different- I have always told my girlfriends who found themselves in this situation, if you don't feel right about abortion, DON'T DO IT. There are women who are torn apart with guilt for the rest of their lives after an abortion, and no one deserves that. If you feel better about carrying on with this pregnancy, then this is the right decision for you and your mom's opinion doesn't matter at all.
From what I understand though, giving your child up for adoption is the hardest thing a woman can ever do. Don't make your decision until you see your baby. If you are pre-matched with an adoptive couple, you may change your mind at the point where it is too late. If you do decide to parent, there are many resources for single mothers, including government aid and even scholarships if you choose to go back to school. This is your baby, and only you can decide what is best for the both of you. Good luck.
I really don't think that MEN (ahem, international Dave) have any business speaking about abortion or pregnancy, since you will never experience or fully understand either situation. Maybe you should let those of us who have been through it give advice.
@frockney, I am not infertile. And men do not have the right to tell a woman what to do with their bodies when it comes to pregnancy and childbirth, as they will NEVER experience it themselves.
RE: Adoption vs. Abortion? I chose to keep my baby and consider adoption instead od going through with an abortion. My mom called me cold hearted for considering adoption for my baby even though my sister has had 3 abortions including the one she had about a week ago and all my mom said about that was that she isn't...