Been seeing this girl at school for a while and have gone out a few times. She's the first girl I have ever dated and I really enjoy making out with her cause she such a good kisser. Here's the thing........... I have only had sex with other guys and I'm nervous about being sexual with her and I know she's wondering why I haven't come on to her sexually because we have had ample opportunity. She does not know I like guys or that I was raped as a child, not sure what to do. I really like her and don't want to lose the one normal thing I have in my life right now. Can you offer any advice.............?
PuppyLove2013-11-13T11:21:22Z
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First very sorry for what you went through, that alone is a lot to deal with. You must be honest with her, us females are understanding you know. You need to be honest if you are to be with some one. I have seem so many break ups over lies.
Tell her you were raped as a child. It will make her understand why you dont. Being honest with someone is awesome. Honesty is the key to a relationship. If you really like her show it. Maybe if you would start being a little more sexual with her, she'll be happier. But ask her first. If she's not happy, no one is. Just remember honesty is the key! Good luck, tell me how it goes. :) email me? @destiniejuers0@gmail.com or @destinie_juers@yahoo.com
Well, if you are going to be dating her - you need to tell her that you are Bi. It's dishonest not to tell her and she will remain confused.
She will likely respect you and the space you need, but making out with her makes it seem like you are interested.. You don't have to have sex with her, but you do need to be up front about your preferences when you date.
You don't need to mention your past unless this becomes serious. That may be a lot for her to handle if you haven't been together long.
I would have a mature conversation with her. Just say that you want to talk, and that you want to be up front with her. She will appreciate your honesty and it will quell her confusion.
There is the risk that she will not want to date a Bi-guy, however if that is the case... she is not the right girl for you anyway.
Be a man and bang her. Seriously! Don't forget to use rubbers.
For reassurance sake, just like a guy would start out liking girls and eventually gets turned on by guys (if they're bisexual or gay), you started out liking guys and now it's your turn to try a girl out. Who knows, maybe you're just bisexual rather than gay. But you got yourself into this situation, and if I had an opportunity, I'd jump on it.
Don't hide nothing from her! You'll regret when she finds out some months after and break up with you, after being very cruel. Don't keep secrets, tell her everything! This is important!