I was doing sweet talk with my gf and this happens, help?
Im a guy and i have a gf that i love very but right now she is mad at me because of this text " I don't know why the other guys had to throw you away like that, to me you are a national treasure that I'd keep forever :)" but she said "so you assume they just threw me away?" And I tried apologizing to her because i got the facts wrong but she got mad and doesn't even want to talk to me no more, and I am trying my all to give her space and I'd do anything and everything to keep my "national treasure" but do you guys THINK(not know) i will keep her ot will i lose her?help? Oh and btw I'm 17, she is 16 and she claims to have a really bad anxiety and a learning disability she says but I do not talk about it much so I thought the info could help a little more
Justin2014-02-19T23:14:08Z
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If she flips out over that she's doing you a favor by not talking to you.
You need to flip positions on her. Step up, find your balls, call her out on her crap and let her know that you're now upset at her, that she now owes you an apology and that you won't tolerate stupid behavior from her. You've apologized already. And for what? Yes, your phrasing was a little clumsy, but the sentiment you were trying to express is that you adore and treasure her - and can't imagine why anyone would let her go. Sounds like you've already tried to clarify and apologize for whatever miscommunication came out from that.
Go to her - in person - tell her that she's overreacting and being stupid. You were trying to tell her that you love her, and that you've already explained and apologized that it came out wrong and you're not going to apologize for it again. Tell her that her bratty, silent-treatment response is overreactive crap that you don't deserve - for trying to tell her you love her of all things! - and that you're done with her until she apologizes and gets over herself. If she doesn't apologize, then just walk away.
If she's normal and worth keeping, she will likely apologize - either immediately or after you "walk away" and then realizes that she eff'ed up and could lose you. Furthermore, you will now be "in the driver's seat" in the relationship and she will respect you more, instead of seeing you as weak little boy that will grovel to her under any circumstances, no matter how bitchy or unreasonable she's being.
If she doesn't apologize, then you will lose her and it's over. Yes that sucks, but you're losing her as is right now. At least if you do what I said you then won't lose your dignity as well by continuing to pathetically grovel. Furthermore, you will also know that she's not worth keeping, and that there are better girls out there who will value you. Welcome to the wacky world of dating. It's definitely in your best interests if you figure out how to "be a man" in your relationships with women sooner rather then later.
Its possible she took offence to "so you assume they threw me away".I understand why you said it.Not my idea of appropriate words but I get your idea.
You were trying to tell her that you cant belive guys didnt stay with her.She's got a point really.Do you know why her previous relationships ended? Who ended the relationships? If she got dumped then there would have been (unjustified) reasons for it.You have accepted her for all her qualities and faults unconditionally.
Just give her time.You could write her a letter.Explain to her how lucky you feel because you are with her and how much you love her.Pour your heart out.Be careful how you say things too.
People with learning difficulties make life difficult for themselves.It affects you too.Give her time.Wait for her to contact you.
Give her space, that's all you can do. She overlooked your compliment as an insult. Honestly it happens all the time..maybe not just in situations like that but we all make mistakes. Be patient, that's all you can do and hope she comes back.
If she cares and loves you she will come around. You already apologized now you just have to wait!
1. Really bad anxiety = red flag #1 2. Learning disability = red flag #2 3. See #'s 1 thru 2 Forget her, if she cant see that your being sweet then she wont ever get it, dont be a dummy