I dated this guy a year ago. He sometimes would say he'd call me or text me on a certain day and then he wouldn't, or he'd ask to take me out and then cancel the day or two before with a cold or a work obligation. The last time he texted to cancel something important for me we had a falling out and he all but dumped me via text. He promised to call the next day. He didn't until much later. I told him we could end with a friendship and he agreed via text (of course). For a few more weeks he texted greetings.
Fast forward to last week when he texted again to see what was up. He asked me about my work as if nothing went wrong. He asked to catch up. Why did he bother doing this?
Thanks!
Anonymous2014-03-03T02:10:13Z
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As a guy I am telling you, do not pin your hopes on this man. He is not interested in you but keeping you as backup lest he has no other girl to go out with. Both men and women do it sometimes and I personally do not like it. Ask yourself if you like some guy will you keep cancelling dates with him? His interest for you is zero. If you like him, I can understand it will be tough for you to dump him but you will always end up hurt if you decide to keep him in your life. Next time he texts you, do not reply. It will send him a clear message that you are not his booty. He can play with you and dump you anytime he decides to do so. Be confident about yourself. Perhaps there is another guy who is genuinely interested in you and would not hurt you this way. Better preserve your time for that guy than being the pawn of a chessboard for another guy
Because he knows he has you all tied up to him and so you can never find anybody else better than him. You are willing to take him back anytime he chooses to come back to you. This guy has taken you for granted, and maybe you showed him that you are the 'clingy' type. It is time for him to learn that you are not available for him anytime he wants you. This time round do the dumping if you expect respect from him.
He still thinks the door is open, it seems like he's just using you whenever convenient, so now is convenient for him. If he's still attracted to you then he's not looking for friendship, just a booty call. Just move on, plenty of fish in the sea.
Sounds like he only cares about talking to you when it's convenient for him. You should cut ties immediately. You deserve to be with someone who will do anything to be with you. It sounds like he just wants to hook up.