Confused about ex girlfriend?? Please help!?

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A little background: I met a girl on an online dating site who I immediately had a connection with. We eventually became a couple and fell for each other. We dated for a few months but it was a long distance relationship even though she will be moving to my area soon. My family owns a hotel by the beach so I invited her to stay for spring break. Then last week she broke up with me for suspecting that I cheated on her. Regardless,  she still came down and has been staying with me (mind you this is our first time meeting in person). Now, here is why I'm confused...She has made it clear that she doesn't trust me and can't date me (at least for the foreseeable future) and just wants to be friends.  However,  the last couple nights we have been staying up all night cuddling in my bed while watching movies.  When I mention feelings, she gets offended and mad. But when I don't acknowledge the cuddling and holding, she doesn't seem to mind.  What is going on? Is she just putting up an emotional block? What should I do? Why the mixed signals?

Also, we have been having a great time together this week except for when I try to talk about "us". We are a perfect match.

Anonymous · Answer

I think she just wants you to prove to her that you have not been cheating on her. & Give her reasons to trust you. Every girl that has been hurt badly by a guy in the past just wants a guy to prove to her that not all guys are like that. I think once you give her a reason to trust you, she'll feel much better about the situation. & Maybe wanna give it a go again. But, a piece of advice if she lives somewhere else & is willing to move where you are she must really care about you, and for some people it takes a lot to pick up and move like that not knowing whether or not you could break her heart. So, she's probably feeling a little bit confused & scared inside. Try and reassure her that she's safe with you.

tomd1980 · Answer

It is a tough one as it does sound like she is sending out very mixed signals

Maybe she has been hurt in the past and went to an online dating site because it meant she could pseudo-date (basically chat to guys and have a relationship without ever meeting and being hurt again).

The cuddling and all in bed would suggest she likes you as more than a friend. Maybe you just need to take your time and let her sort things out for herself. Maybe she is nervous about getting into a relationship and thinks you talking about feelings is pressuring her into going farther

Or else it could be that she is not that into you and decided to visit as you owned a hotel and she got a free holiday out of it and teased you enough to pay for her

The only thing you can do is wait and if she is moving to your area like she says you can meet up and take things slowly and see what happens

Krystal · Answer

I think she is just trying to protect herself. She likes you because she is cuddling you and spending time with you. But give her some time. Maybe don't ask about her feelings for a while. Just enjoy each other's company and she will open up more

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