Why, in a first world country, do we require women to live their entire lives in fear of men's violence?

Rules for women to "prevent rape" include, but are not limited to:

"Look in the back seat of the car before getting in. Carry a cell phone. Don't go jogging at night. Lock all the windows while sleeping, even on hot summer nights. Be careful not to drink too much. Don't put your drink down and come back to it; make sure I see it being poured. Own a big dog. Carry Mace or pepper spray. Have an unlisted phone number. Have a man's voice on your answering machine. Park in well-lit areas. Don't use parking garages. Don't get on elevators with only one man, or with a group of men. Vary your route home from work. Watch what you wear. Don't use highway rest areas. Use a home alarm system. Don't wear headphones when jogging. Avoid forests or wooded areas, even in the daytime. Don't take a first-floor apartment. Go out in groups. Own a firearm. Meet men on first dates in public places. Make sure to have a car or cab fare. Don't make eye contact with men on the street. Make assertive eye contact with men on the street.”

Why must we teach women all of these rules rather than just teaching boys/men that girls/women aren't objects for sexual gratification? Being a rapist is not the natural state of a man, as these rules seem to suggest.

True Blue Brit2014-05-20T23:50:38Z

It is a mystery to me. Sometimes I think we should have the justice system of some countries in which there is little crime.
But I really don't want to go down that route.

Anonymous2014-05-20T22:31:08Z

It helps sell feminist books. Without that fear, without the constant narrative of "women are oppressed. Be afraid. Be very very afraid." the religion of feminism would vanish and the money well would dry up.

As for your list, if you don't want to be safe, by all means, ignore it.

I, for example, don't much care about living to be 120 so I pretty much eat red meat, smoke, drink, etc. I get what I get. You want to wear a skimpy tube top and get falling down drunk at a seedy bar, be my guest. I don't care. It's your life.

As for the 'rules' (suggestions) seeming to suggest that being a rapist is the natural state of a man, those 'rules' don't suggest that at all. Those rules simply point out that SOME men may want to rape you and to better avoid being raped by THOSE men, you might want to follow some or all of these suggestions. The people who are suggesting that men are naturally rapists are called 'feminists'.

In fact, even YOU in this very post have implied that men are naturally rapists. You: "... just teaching boys/men that girls/women aren't objects for sexual gratification?"

Anonymous2014-05-20T19:27:35Z

Why in a first world country do many believe that women are the only people who live in fear of violence?

All men who aren't tall, largely aggressive and built like a tank have to worry about being robbed and beaten. Any guy who looks delicate and attractive have to worry about being raped. Little boys have to worry about being kidnapped and possibly raped.

Your belief on this matter is heavily narcissistic, biased, unrealistic, and sexist in my opinion.

I'm a guy and I have been mugged twice, sexually assaulted twice, jumped several times, and you think women are the only ones who have to watch theit backs. Thats kind of insulting.

Anonymous2014-05-27T05:30:08Z

If you are ugly and obese, u don't have to worry about that.

?2014-05-20T20:33:44Z

Some of the things listed are just common sense ways to minimize one's chance of being assaulted, whether they're male or female.

For the record, men are much more likely to be victims of assault.

And not all sexual assault victims are female.
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