Parents over controlling?

I'm 22 and I still live with my parents. They tell me all the time that I need to exercise or eat better. This goes on almost every day of my life and it's so annoying. They tell me that I am going to get diabetes if I don't. If they see me eating something unhealthy they will remind me that I should be eating better and exercise. There are times when I do exercise and they still tell me that I need to exercise. I am overweight (Male 5'10'' and 260 lbs), but when my parents tell me constantly to either exercise or eat better it makes me want to do the opposite. Right now, they told me that I can only snack once a day, they also told me what I should eat. Today I said "I'm a big boy now." and they replied with "When you get your own house you can...." Its like really, I am an adult, I can make my own choices. I feel like forcing me to eat right is not going to help, I have to want to eat right. I feel like it is up to me to eat right, and right now, I'm just not ready. I feel like getting so mad, but I have to bottle it up, and find something to do so I don't explode. what should I do?

2014-06-08T16:34:31Z

@Alexis, Been there, done all of that. When I tell that I am old enough, they just tell me that its there house, and when I get my own house, then I can do what I want. I have also told them how annoying it is, and it made little difference. Its like my parents don't care or understand how their actions affect other people. They are very closed minded.

@Lederman, Wish I could. I was fired from my job and have no money, but I am about to graduate college.

2014-06-08T16:44:34Z

@Michael, Yes I am aware that I am "unhealthy". I do however exercise at the very least once a week.
-I have had my thyroid tested, and it hasn't shown to be abnormal. Although sometimes is seems like I exhibit symptoms similar to those with thyroid problems.
-I think it is very likely that I do eat because of personal problems, as well as use drugs. But I'm afraid that seeing someone for help, will scare my parents, because I have a sibling who is severely depressed & almost committed suicide

2014-06-08T16:50:53Z

@Michael (continued...) If I were to get mad at them, they would respond by getting even more pissed off. I have tried arguing with them and there is no winning with them. There is literally nothing I can say or do that would change there mind. I use to argue with my parents all the time, but I have given up, because there is no point. It just ends up becoming yelling and I just end up resenting them even more. My parents get extremely pissed off at arguing and yelling, however its constant.

?2014-06-08T16:30:51Z

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They're concerned (rightfully so) about your health. It's not health to be 260 lbs at any age, unless perhaps you're a huge pro wrestler or something along those lines and it's mostly muscle.

Unfortunately they fail to realize that nothing they say or do is going to make you lose weight. The first thing I suggest you do is to make a doctor appointment and have a series of tests done to make sure you don't have a thyroid problem or anything medically wrong with you that would cause you to be overweight. I know someone who had a thyroid problem, got medication, and lost all the extra weight.

The second thing I suggest is to see a psychologist to try to determine if you're eating to hide from your problems. I remember seeing a TV documentary about an extremely overweight person. The person went on a diet and stopped cramming their face with food. The really interesting thing is that when they were interviewed later on, they said, "Once I didn't have the food to hide behind anymore, all my real problems came to the surface, so rather than deal with those issues, I just started eating all the time again". many times people eat as "comfort", in the same way a different person with problems might hide from them by getting drunk all the time. It's important to your mental health to make sure you're not eating as a way of avoiding dealing with personal issues/problems.

Lastly, you could just be one of those people with a poor metabolism, which results in most of what you eat being turned into fat cells instead of energy.

It's interesting that you say "I feel like getting so mad, but I have to bottle it up, and find something to do so I don't explode". Does that not sound like an analogy for your eating? You get angry, you eat (bottle it up inside), and get so full of food that you're about to explode. Maybe if you let it out instead of bottling it up, you wouldn't need the food to hide behind. Try "exploding" and yelling at your parents. Vent all that anger and frustration that you have inside.

If nothing else you need to sit down with your parents and explain to them that nothing they say is going to make a difference, and that their constant harping on it just irritates you and makes you want to do the opposite. Tell them that only YOU can make the decision to change, and you'll do it when you're good and ready. Best of luck!

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?2014-06-08T16:02:01Z

Alright yes they sound a bit over the too but it's only because they care about you and don't want anything to happen you to. Talk to them and tell them your old enough to make you own decisions and them nagging you makes you want to do the opposite .

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Anonymous2014-06-08T15:59:02Z

They probably shouldn't be telling you how you should diet in all honesty

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