Wrong for me not to want mother in law to go along to the ultrasound.?
This is my husbands and i first baby I'm 22 weeks. So far only my mom and himself has gone along to the ultrasounds. His mom wants to go along to the next one but I don't want her too. I feel that I am not her child and it's not her place and I'm not comfortable with it. Is this common that a girl only wants her mom to be there or coming from my husband it's me being rude to his mom. Just wondering opinions. Also she never asked me to go. I guess she told him she wanted to. I also feel she should ask me.
Katherine W2014-06-13T12:12:27Z
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Tell your husband to tell his mother that you're not comfortable with that. Then, frankly, I would change the appointment to a different day if you think it's likely that she will just show up. Or tell the ultra-sound people you don't want her there with you if she's likely to come.
You can also find something else to do with her. Maybe invite her to lunch or ask her to help you pick out colors for the nursery or something. Involve her. If she does ask why she can't come, just say, "I feel that it's personal" and have that be the end of it.
Don't let people manipulate you into something you don't want to do.
I don't think you're wrong for not wanting her there, since this is a very private thing. I do think that it's kind of unfair to not let her come to one if you let your own mother come. Especially if your husband does want her there. It just seems mean to not consider either of their opinions on this. I think when it comes to the labor it's all about you and what you want, but when it comes to things like ultrasounds you should both have a say.
I wouldn't want my mother in law in the room either, but I also wouldn't let my own mom in. That's just my opinion. Obviously it's up to you to do what you want.
Why do you think your husband should have no say in this? And that his mom should ask you permission and not him? Aren't you doing this together so you should both make the decisions?
Oh, grow up and act like an adult! You do not need to take your mother, your MIL, or your husband along to hold your hand while you are having an ultrasound. It is just a routine doctor's appointment, for heaven's sake, and you are going to have MANY more routine doctor appointments while you are pregnant. You are not going to want them to accompany you on every one of those, are you? Those people would have to sit in the Waiting Room anyway; they would not be in the room with you. Even if your mother or MIL came along with you, the ultrasound tech would not be allowed to tell them the results of YOUR ultrasound.
What is the point in dragging either of them along with you? You are a big girl now; you can go to the doctor by yourself, like most people do.
I wouldn't want my mother in law at my ultrasound and neither did she ask. Had she asked either myself or my husband I would have said yes purely because my own my mother went and I would feel it would be unfair. The delivery room is a different story!
Not wrong at all. Your MIL doesn't have the right to attend any of your medical exams.
(Though I"ll admit to being a bit puzzled that you have invited your own mother along to your prenatal visits. And if you've invited her it becomes a bit more awkward to explain to your MIL that ONE grandma is allowed, but the other is not.)