Should I return the money? What would you do?

I was at a meeting of a women’s club and one of the members told me she planned to sell their house and ask me if I knew any real estate agents. I told her my ex husband was a real estate agent and she might call him to discuss selling her house.

She called him and liked him and hired him to sell her house. She told me he did a great job and sold her home for more that the asking price. She was happy with the sale.

Shortly after her home sold, I got a $1000 check from my ex husband. A note enclosed with the check said “I give anyone a referral fee that sends me a seller or buyer and I don’t see why I should treat you any different”. “Spend this on something you will enjoy”.

Then I had an unexpected problem. My current husband does not want me to take the money. He does not me to have anything to do with my ex husband. I tried to explain that this is a business transaction and it has nothing to do with him. He is not buying it.

Should I return the money to keep peace in the family or keep it. What would you do?

Poppy2014-07-15T11:45:31Z

If you know for a fact that your ex treats all referrals like this, then you should keep the money. Your husband is being too controlling, and suspicious.

If you think there was any inkling of a "warm fuzzy feeling" attached to your ex paying you for the referral, then send it back to him, thanking him for the offer but telling him that, "under the circumstances" you can't accept it.

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?2014-07-15T12:12:00Z

I think that was a very sweet thing your ex did. If your husband was secure with himself inside the marriage he wouldn't feel threatened by a simple act of kindness. He has a problem, what is he so scared of?

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Jack2014-07-16T09:02:08Z

Sign the check over to your present husband and see if he doesn't change his tune.

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P2014-07-15T11:22:49Z

I would take the money deposit it. Tell him to grow up, and that you are not throwing out $1000 for his personal issues of territorial insecurity over you and add that you will refrain from giving out referrals in the future, but what's done is done.

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Anonymous2014-07-15T11:18:15Z

If you can't reason with him then yeah , return the money .

Myself , I am happy to refer someone that does a good job without any sort of compensation .

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