Should I alloe my boyfriend to dress sluty for Halloween?
My boyfriend wants to dress up as a "sexy devil" in just underwear and presumably horns but nothing else. He will be at a party with other guys and I won't be there because It's long distance. I don't want people looking at my man. I don't want people touching him. I don't want people flirting with him. I told him I hate the idea of a "sluty" devil, but he just won't give up on it. I told him I'd be mad and not talk to him if he wore it. Should I feel this way or should I let him go? Trust is not an issue, I trust him, It's just I don't trust the other guys that could flirt and touch and stuff.
Anonymous2014-09-16T19:38:46Z
You say trust isn't an issue and if that was the case, you wouldn't be asking this question.
Look whether your man dresses up for halloween or just to go to the shops ... other people might flirt with him or will look at him. It's a little silly you told him you will not talk to him if he goes, come on, seriously? that's really immature.
So what if other people look at him or try to flirt with him - your boyfriend does not have to flirt back, and if someone 'touches' him, he can just remove their hands and say "sorry, I am in a relationship"
Allow him - you may be his partner but you don't own him, remember that, and if you keep it up he just might walk away from the relationship.
I get you don't trust other people, but those people are not your or your boyfriends problem
Would you feel the same if this was just some other party?
"Allow him"? Wow. You have serious jealousy issues. All I can say is if someone I was dating decided not to "allow" me to do something like that, I would be dating someone else really quickly. When I met my wife, I told her I had a lot of "friend-girls" and that she needed to be cool with that. She was. We've been happily married for 23 years and I still have friend-girls. My wife trusts me because she can. If you can trust your guy, trust him. Be mature.