We're both adults and we have been in a relationship for a while. She won't have sex with me ever because she says she doesn't like sex. I know no guy guy wants guy wants to be with a girl that won'thave sex and i feel like an idiot because im with her. And I don't know what to do.
Anonymous
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+If she has made love to others and been burned by them, been abused by then, or had overs who hurt her and left her, have patience and ask her how you can help her through this. That you love her and want to give her pleasure and will move slowly to please her.
+If she is telling you in advance that she will never ever want intimacy again and will never even try, even after marriage, and love making is a part of your goals (quiet normal), then you must part. Some people, both make and female have low libidos.
= On another note, if you are demanding "sex" which means intercourse with little to no foreplay and is basically using her vagina to self pleasure yourself: few women want to just be used like that.
= Most women prefer the slow dance of lovemaking, which includes roses, nice music, the dance of kisses and hugs, beautiful words. and plenty of time. We like plenty of evenings of this before we ever think of going farther, especially if we have already been used and thrown away.
= THEN when we feel safe, we still want an hour of slow and deliberate foreplay which included tender caresses of the clitoris and an orgasm or two before intercourse. Most women who do not care for sex, have never been made love to. I bet she is one of them. Can you imagine a woman expecting for example for you to do oral on her, yet she never touches your penis or lets you put it inside or have an orgasm? Well that is exactly what it feels like when a man just wants intercourse and never gives her clitoris equivalent attention.
=And finally lovemaking in a committed long term relationship or better yet marriage is the best.
= If she is a virgin, just make out with her and do not push her. With tenderness and love things will evolve. She needs some earth shaking orgasms to get going.
Amy
If you two really liked each other. You'll work this out together instead of just dumping her when things don't go the way you want. Some people aren't into sex like others are. That is no reason to break up with someone. I'm not that into sex and I've been with my Bf for 4 years.
Michelle
Unless you can find out why she doesn't like sex and try and figure out a way to get her to enjoy sex then yes, you should break up with her, it's not fair for you to miss out on sex, it's a normal part of a relationship and if you don't get it from her it's only a matter of time before you start looking for it somewhere else, so it would be worse if you cheated on her. Unless a person doesn't want to have sex for religious reason and you're both happy with that, then that's a different story, but for her to say she never wants to have sex ever because she doesn't like it, then that's not your fault, you need to find someone who does like sex.
Catherine
In my opinion, it sort of sounds like she's a virgin and might just be scared or maybe there are other reasons behind it, but if you truly do love her, which doesn't really sound like the case because you are contemplating leaving her over this, than I can see why this would be a problem but it shouldn't be the deal breaker.
LULU
Wow, why? Sex is amazing? Sometimes I have to wonder. Is she angry at you at the moment? Does she have her period? Is she going through a tough time? Is she a virgin.
If none of these are true.
Dump that a ss