Why get married at all if you don't plan on having children?
What's the point of marrying your significant other if you're not going to have kids. The point of marriage is to create a stable environment for children so they can be raised and help society move forward. So if you don't plan on having kids, why get married at all. No ones going to stop you from living with each other. And also you're likely to get divorced nowadays and that can lead to some costly lawsuits. So I'm just curious, cause I don't plan on having kids and I don't plan on getting married.
?2015-05-23T15:43:50Z
Marriage is not about having children. Marriage is about the two people deciding to make a legal commitment to each other.
The divorce rate for first marriages is about 45%. So, odds are actually in favor of NOT divorcing.
There are legal benefits that come with being married that is not afforded to couples simply living with each other.
If you don't want children and/or you don't want to get married, then don't. That's your decision.
Marriage is not about having children. It's about saying that you forsake all others. That this person is the only one for you. And being married doesn't mean that the children are going to have a more stable environment for children. In fact all that matters concerning children is that there be 2 parents that are always there present in the children's lives. There are many many couples that never get married. There are benefits to getting married. But if you don't there is the common law spouse law. It allows for couples who don't want to get married but want the benefits of marriage. After 7 years you and your significant other are common law spouse's. Like if you or your significant other is in the military and they die in the line of duty, if you are not married or common law then you can not receive any of the military benefits like the pension or military disability or even getting a folded flag that they give to spouses and families. You would be *** out of luck!
If you don't plan to get married or have children, then good for you! It's a personal choice, and you're entitled to make that choice.
Some couples like to indulge in commitment to each other - they actually share a close sense of emotional intimacy, acceptance, respect and trust, depend on each other and STAY TOGETHER! Imagine that!
Those of us who think "gee, i'm LIKELY to get divorced", probably will end up in divorce. Those of us who decide our marriage is going to work out, will likely have a good marriage. Our destiny and the thoughts we think tend to coincide.
Go by what your gut is telling you. Women in this age DO NOT have to marry the father of their baby just because the dude got her pregnant. If you don' t love him or trust him you should NOT marry him. Don't raise your child up in an atmosphere where there is no love between the parents. That's hurting the baby, you and him. If you family ask you why you changed your mind about marrying him, tell them the truth. Just make sure he will support the baby by paying you child support and establish visitation rights for him to see his child after the baby is born. I'm sure your parents will support you. Make a good life for you and your child. You both deserve it. Good luck.