Why get married at all if you don't plan on having children?

Marriage is not about having children. Marriage is about the two people deciding to make a legal commitment to each other.

The divorce rate for first marriages is about 45%. So, odds are actually in favor of NOT divorcing.

There are legal benefits that come with being married that is not afforded to couples simply living with each other.

If you don't want children and/or you don't want to get married, then don't. That's your decision.

Marriage is not about having children. It's about saying that you forsake all others. That this person is the only one for you. And being married doesn't mean that the children are going to have a more stable environment for children. In fact all that matters concerning children is that there be 2 parents that are always there present in the children's lives. There are many many couples that never get married. There are benefits to getting married. But if you don't there is the common law spouse law. It allows for couples who don't want to get married but want the benefits of marriage. After 7 years you and your significant other are common law spouse's. Like if you or your significant other is in the military and they die in the line of duty, if you are not married or common law then you can not receive any of the military benefits like the pension or military disability or even getting a folded flag that they give to spouses and families. You would be *** out of luck!

If you don't plan to get married or have children, then good for you! It's a personal choice, and you're entitled to make that choice.

Some couples like to indulge in commitment to each other - they actually share a close sense of emotional intimacy, acceptance, respect and trust, depend on each other and STAY TOGETHER! Imagine that!

Those of us who think "gee, i'm LIKELY to get divorced", probably will end up in divorce. Those of us who decide our marriage is going to work out, will likely have a good marriage. Our destiny and the thoughts we think tend to coincide.

Go by what your gut is telling you. Women in this age DO NOT have to marry the father of their baby just because the dude got her pregnant. If you don' t love him or trust him you should NOT marry him. Don't raise your child up in an atmosphere where there is no love between the parents. That's hurting the baby, you and him. If you family ask you why you changed your mind about marrying him, tell them the truth. Just make sure he will support the baby by paying you child support and establish visitation rights for him to see his child after the baby is born. I'm sure your parents will support you. Make a good life for you and your child. You both deserve it. Good luck.

To each his/her own.

However, I don't look at marriage as only for those who want children. Marriage is much more than what you seem to think.

I have been married for 27 years. It has been quite an adventure with my very best friend by my side.

My husband and I have been happily married and child free for 22 years. We believe that children cause divorce, and that the fact we chose not to have them saved our marriage. The point of marriage is to have a life partner to share joys, sorrows, expenses and experiences with. Legally, these days it doesn't seem to matter to people whether or not they're married to have kids or not have kids. We chose to get married because we're old fashioned and believe that life partners should be legally wed, and enjoy all the legal benefits that marriage brings. we enjoy being husband and wife. We enjoy it even more because we don't have any squalling brats to deal with.

The whole point of marriage is expression. Two people love each other, it doesn't mean that they want to have a family. Marriage is one commitment and having children is another. At this moment in time you may not feel that you want to have children or get married but you MAY find someone in the future who can change your mind.

Take this scenario for example:- Tom and Jane get married. Jane has previously had cervical cancer, leaving her infertile. Tom sticks by Jane, although he knows that they cant have children at any point without a surrogate mother or adoption. Tom and Jane married because they were in love, and werent planning on having a family at all.

Scenario number 2: Mary is in a relationship with Jono. Jono and Mary are not planning on getting married. They have their second child on the way and do not want to make commitments in other areas, as they want to provide for their children first and plan on getting married later on in life. (10 years later, still no engagement).

Scenario number 3:- Savannah and Jamie have been together for 7 years. Although they don't plan on getting married, Jamie has proposed to Savannah to show a token of his love.

Some people can't have children. That doesn't mean they can't get married though. Different people deal with different things in different ways. Some people are together from being 18 until they die without being married.

Society has changed and will continue to change as life goes on. Sex before marriage used to be frowned upon, however as the years went on, it is now more strange for a person not to have had sex before marriage. Some people are single with children and raise their children equally as someone would who is married.

It is all about adapting as times change.

Hope this helps.

Laura

i can see where a female would get this confused but a man would marry a woman because he cares about her and loves her. But women have other idea's don't they.

getting married is about two people committing to each other, whether they have children or not. sure you can live together, but some people prefer the old fashioned statement of marriage and there is nothing wrong with that.