I don't have any friends, but I don't know why?

I'm 17. Going to be a senior in high school. I just don't understand why, I've grown up in my current city since sixth grade, and have been introverted but within the last year I've been trying to shake that introversion. I made a group of friends, but soon enough, I was excluded from everything that they did/do. I don't know why. They won't tell me if I ask, and if I do they'll gossip about me to the rest of the groups and label me a needy loser so I don't consider them to be my friends anymore. I don't have anyone else though, because I refuse to participate in the unnecessary drama that comes with immature high school relationships. Am I too mature for my peers? I don't get it. I try, but don't succeed. I have many "school friends" but none that I hang out with. Long story short I've had a terrible life with an alcoholic mother dragging me all over the country to feed off of her family members and her own daughter to feed her addiction, so could that experience contribute in some way? After a series of events I know live with my dad. I basically live alone and care for myself, not by choice but because my dad works basically 24/7. It's been that way since freshman year. People I talk to envy it, but I hate it. I'm so lonely all the time, but really I don't think that there is anything I can do. I just don't seem to fit in anywhere, and I don't even know if I want to but I want a group to call my friends. Idk. I'm really struggling. Any suggestions?

Anonymous2015-07-31T16:48:52Z

I was/am just like you I'm about to go to college now. When I was in school I had school friends as well but no out of school friends. It can be very lonely, I did not do sports or clubs, so I was alone a lot. I took that time to learn about myself, what I liked, disliked, who I was and wanted to be. It can be hard but it is rewarding. You can always get a job and meet all sorts of people that will/can stimulate your mind, give you a new perspective. Or you can go to the park, library, coffee house, mall alone to just enjoy the world around you. There will always be people who don't mesh with your personality and for many it can take years to find a true friend. I promise it does get better I just takes a new perspective and knowledge of ones self. All the best to you <3

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Victor2015-07-31T10:13:59Z

Well I'd start by finding people that are interested in things you like. What are your hobbies? Try looking for clubs at your school or in the area around you. If you like sports try going to the local gym or if you like card games go to local tournaments, etc. Also try talking to people in your school that you've never talked to before you just might hit it off. I'm in college so there are WAY more chances to be friends with people but I imagine it to be the same in High School.

-Good luck!

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Frank2015-09-16T16:54:34Z

join oragami club

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