Anonymous
you don't.
don't expect to feel normal for at least 6 months to a year after.
until then, you will be faced with constant reminders of your former life, and it will hurt.
you need to get into a new routine, to replace the old one.
get some hobbies.
get out of the house often, even just to go to the store for a few things.
do things you DIDN'T do when you were married.
don't collect or store reminders of your wife.
it can help to get rid of things from your marriage, unless you have family members to give them to.
keeping those things around you all the time is a mistake.
it keeps the cycle of grief and depression going longer than necessary.
i went through the same feelings you're having --- after the breakup of a 20-year marriage.
the only difference in our situations is that she's still out there walking around, which is worse in some ways.
with death, you have the advantage of closure and finality.
use that advantage to start a new life.
Raja
Human beings are ruled by spirits but humans must learn to control and rule the spirits. Spirits possess people according to the mental state of the human beings and keep them in the same state until they are rejected and replaced by another. This is an all time phenomena occurring in all humans. Human beings are always under the influence of spirits. Certain situations and circumstances causes the possession of certain type of spirits. Often thinking and talking about bad subjects or bad imaginations even for fun can take serious turns on one who think and talk. All spirits (good and bad) have the dominating character. They can take you to the extent of sacrifice or suicide.
All of your activities, talks and even thoughts determine what kind of spirits you will have for your life. Only these spirits (if they are positive) can create a good opportunity to get a job and all favorable things which you need to your life. Generally spirits determine the destiny of the human beings from their daily activities, talks and thoughts too. After death no one lives in any form. Heaven and hell are only for spirits. Spirits are separate elements. A human being is not a single spirit. A human being during his/her life time is living with many spirits which have joined one by one since birth. They are knowledge, skills, feelings, emotions, interests and everything. Even thoughts are not your own. When you want to take a decision on a subject, one after another the spirits think and you just listen, choose or reject the ideas which they transmit to your mind through your brain in the form of thoughts. A human being is just a robot made of flesh, bones, tissues etc., and a toy of the spirits for their games.
If you happen to hear your wife's voice it's not she but one of the spirits which were living with your wife. I am hearing everyday the living people's voices. From this I have understood that a person is living with many spirits and some of them are representing his/her friends and relatives and only these spirits reminds them at times. The more you think (about your wife) the more would be the possession of the spirit. It may take you even to the extent of suicide. Therefore you must control your mind. By controlling your mind you can control them. Gradually they will quit. You don't worry.
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Take your time, grieve, give in to your sorrow and in time it will be less intense, you are not abnormal, simply going through a natural process which given time will become easier.
luke
keep a healthy routine nd spend time with friends..find a new young lady, or several
whyskyhigh
ask for help