How to politely tell your dr. that you are not interested in losing weight ?

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We have gotten a new doctor at the clinic I go to, and the last visit, she pointed at the BMI chart and told me that, by my weight, I was obese. I couldn't give an eff less. :(
I am 48, and have been fat since I was 3.
I have yo-yo dieted, and have had 6 kids. I had been at 150, for over a decade, and when I had met my husband of almost 20 years, I'd had the last 3 of my 6 kids. They are grown. Sooo, in the this time of my life,i am enjoying it. I eat what I want and do what I want. If I go to bed at 4 am, and get up and noon, so be it. If my husband wants to make himself something to eat, he does. We pretty much live like roomies anyway. So, this BMI chart, is outdated and to me defunct.
My calves are muscular, as I go up and down stairs alot during the day. My blood pressure is 120/ 80. My heart is ok. So what gives her the right,besides being my dr, to tell me to lose weight, when no other doctors didn't ? She is also petite and has no kids. I have been a stay-at-home mom and enjoyed it when my kids were hone. Now, this is MY time,and I am enjoying it. How to I tell her that I do not want to lose weight, and that I have done so, in the past, and didn't care to keep it off ? I hate to exercise and I hate to diet. It has nothing to do with self-discipline,but everything to do with the fact, that I do not think it is her plae to give me outdated info.

Common Sense · Answer

Most people do not realize this, but you have a right NOT to be weighed at the doctor's office.  Therefore, since you are happy with your weight and are otherwise healthy, why not step on that doctor's office scale again?

This will give your doctor the hint that your weight is not up for discussion.  Sometimes actions speak louder than words. If she does not know how much you weigh, she cannot compare your weight to those charts on the wall, right?

kill_yr_television · Answer

If the numbers say you are overweight (or have high blood pressure or whatever) then your physician has both an ethical and a legal responsibility to provide you with education about healthy weight (or healthy blood pressure or whatever). Stop taking this as a personal attack. The doctor is just doing his/her job. Just tell the doctor that you understand the information he/she has provided and that you aren't interested in weight loss, diet, or exercise at this time. This isn't a big deal unless you choose to make a big deal out of it.

? · Answer

You clearly have issues.  You realize you are PAYING her to monitor your health and give you directives.   It's certainly up to you if you want to ignore her.  If you are happy with yourself obese, nobody can convince you otherwise.   But don't make up BS about outdated information, or try and make her feel bad for doing the responsible thing, just because your other doctors didn't.

Just do what you want and ignore her advice, or find another dr.   If someone I worked with, or hired me, told me not to tell him the correct information because it wasn't what he or she wanted to hear, I'd suggest they find another professional.

J-Dawn · Answer

Why bring it up? I had a doctor try to tell me about the possible health risks involved because of my weight. I just smiled and nodded and then promptly forgot everything he told me. No need to be confrontational about it.

Anonymous · Answer

Here's a thought. Get another doctor.

How to politely tell your dr. that you are not interested in losing weight ?

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