Why do I love people who can never love me back?

As a gay man, I am constantly falling in love with straight men. They are so masculine, and I love that in a man. I don't love straight men because they are straight, I love them because they are dominant and masculine on a level that no gay man I've ever seen can reach. But I am a man, and thus have no chance with them. Nonetheless, when I meet straight men I find attractive, I always fall for them and develop an unhealthy attachment to them. I tell myself I won't, I tell myself that I can control myself, but it seems like I just can't help it. I just grow so attached. I'm like a leech, except the host is the one who is doing the damage. I move from straight guy to straight guy, and the process is the same: fall in love with him, wish that someday he'll give me a chance, and another one will come along. I don't know how to help this. I can't think about any other person but the guy I'm currently trying to get with. It's very unhealthy, but I don't know how to stop myself, and it seems like I can't. Why do I get so attached only to people who can't love me back in the same way?

angel2016-06-03T18:39:04Z

I'm sorry you feel this way. This happens a lot you're not the only one trust me.

My advice to to get out there a find you a man. Believe it or not. Your sexuality doesn't always define your masculinity.
I know a lot of straight guys who act feminine and I know lot of gay guys who act masculine.

It's a stereotype to say that gay men can't be as masculine as straight guys.

Trust me, in a world full of

7.125 billion (2013) people
There are definitely gay men who meet your masculinity preferences and then some.
Good luck.best wishes.much love <3

LarsEighner2016-06-03T19:00:16Z

Because it is safer and easier. Unrequited love is a piece of cake. A real relationship is hard work, a constant struggle, and can go wrong.

Jihad Joe A Real Arabian Hero2016-06-03T19:56:17Z

My guess is you are terrified of actual attachment to someone on some level. Pretty common among gay men like us, believe it or not. We find ourselves attracted to bad guys or impossible guys. That would be my guess, anyways.

ratarded2016-06-03T18:53:06Z

Christ is lord. his love is never ending

Anonymous2016-06-03T18:26:42Z

Christ loves you

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