My husband & I've been a year. We're going on a cruise vacation for a week next week with our family. Lately our marriage been suffering.?

He treats me good in front of family and friends. Our sex life has sadly been declining to 1-2 a month. We're argue a lot. To make matter worse I'm a diabetic. My husband isn't all that great with money & likes to spend over what we agreed on. My husband this paycheck overspent. I was almost not able to get my medicine or supplies. I told him about this he called me selfish his birthday is coming up. He received a Visa card for his birthday. I told him I needed to borrow money. I used the card to get my medical supplies plus medicine. He didn't want me to use it. He got it for free c
Visa. I tried asking him what he wants to do for his birthday all is get
is Nothin. Also yesterday I just found out that he might be going out with his mom. When argued he goes to silent treatments, but this time he turned around & said he didn't care about my medicine. It really hurt my feelings. I've got eye problems related with diabetic. Also my foot has been hurting so I can't walk long without it bothering me. I still work sitting all day. Lately all he does is watch netflix we have a small puppy. He kick her outside our bedroom & ask me to let him relax after work. This has been happening everyday. He has anger problems the last time he got upset & we argued my puppy jump on him to play. He kept hitting and smacked her so hard she fell on the floor then I asked him why he did. He starts arguing and left, we have made up since then and are ok. I'm worried I want our trip vacation to well.

mmm2016-08-08T10:59:32Z

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wow honey - if you were in Michigan I would ask you to meet me

I am a woman and I know abuse when I hear it....you work even though it is more difficult than for most people and you need medicine to survive. Yet your husband does not recognize that you contribute and that you need medicine to survive.

When a man says he does not care about you for whatever reason - he is cheating on you or withholding money for medicine - I think most of us on here would agree with me that they would rather be cheated on then someone trying to withhold medicine to survive.

you have a small puppy who he abuses when he is angry - what do you think will happen when you have a real baby in the house and he gets angry? what if the baby wants attention and sits on his daddy's lap? when he slaps the child out of his arms simply because he is angry - will you be as calm as you are now?

if I were you and my husband smacked a small helpless animal - it would make me realize what scumbag he is to hurt a helpless ANYTHING - even an animal - that's called abusive behavior

you're worried about a cruise vacation with a crazy psychotic selfish monster - what you should be worried about is finding yourself a home for you and your puppy - don't you love that puppy? doesn't the puppy matter to you?

you have seen what it will be like to have a child in your home - run (please run because the cycle of abuse continues with your children - they learn from the abuser, how to be abusive)

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???2016-08-08T10:19:23Z

If he's overspending, you haven't really agreed on your finances. It sounds like money is causing resentment, and that's foolish. If you need to buy medical supplies and medication, make that the first thing you spend from your own check and then contribute to house bills. He'll pay the bills and feel less resentment putting his money toward them than toward your personal expenses.

Also, if you're struggling financially and your expenses are already a burden on the family, why the hell do you have a puppy? Rehome her to someone who can afford her and be more fiscal about your own purchases. Good luck.

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Anonymous2016-08-08T10:22:32Z

Odd that you're going on a cruise AND have a puppy (new pet...which can be expensive if you care for them properly) and yet are in such financial straights that you sometimes can't afford needed medication for your ongoing condition. On top of that, you two have some other big issues that counseling might help, but you seem to prefer spending money on non-necessities.

What's your question, dear?

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digimutt2016-08-08T12:28:14Z

go on vacation if you want but when you get back it is time to stand up and take steps to get away from this abusive non caring immature and selfish man. You need your medicine I know I too am diabetic. You do not need this man in your life.. Make a plan and start saving for your get away and for God's sake and yours, DO NOT GET PREGNANT

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Happy-22016-08-08T10:18:30Z

That a lot of details to never get around to asking a question.

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