Would you follow someone you turned down? Why is she? And should i contact her all?

So I was talking to this girl this past month on Snapchat, and texting. We finally met up last Saturday at her place. That saturday night was the first time we met in person. We were just watching movies and we talked. I don't know what it was but we just vibed with each other. Her room was just lit with candles too so it was a chill setting also. Shortly after, it just happened between us having sex. so we went two rounds, and she was saying things like, "your so big (my name)", dropped the f word many times, right there, etc. the first round she was cuffing up with me real tight kissing on my shoulder and neck right after. Shorty after she got on top of me saying she wanted it again, being really seductive with me so that's what led to the second round. We cuddled some more and kissed for a bit and that was it. After that I had to go, but I was just messing with saying, "you don't want me to leave huh?" And she shook her head with a smile saying no pretty much. It's obvious we feel each other, but here's the dilemma. She's going thru so much at home with her parents and she had broken up with her ex a month prior talking to me. They have no contact what so ever but he did her so wrong in so many ways
dissapears. She told me it's complicated to talk to her. so we texted the night after we had sex cause she asked me what I'm looking for in a girl that night we had sex. I couldn't answer it so I answered for her and told her I wanted her.

2016-11-02T09:28:52Z

She said this, She said this , "(My name), this message just broke my heart. 😔 This was honestly the sweetest thing that I have ever read, and I want to be that girl for you so badly - I'm just not in a good place right now. You did absolutely nothing wrong; you're perfect" I just felt like I rushed things but apparently I did not, but I'm really feeling her and don't want to leave her, I wanted to stick it out.

2016-11-02T09:29:09Z

So I told her how I felt about her foreal. And last weekend she told me she would text me after but never did. on monday she snapped me saying (my name), I need to breathe. I'm sorry. I'll text you later. Now I feel terrible inside l, like it's over now. I wasn't harrassing her or anything I just asked if we could talk that's it. Idk man **** sucks 😞But the thing is she still follows me on snapchat?

2016-11-02T09:29:26Z

She sees my stories and I see hers, but i don't want to overdue it by messaging her. I mean idk, its weird to me cause she said she likes me being around and talking to me but were not compatible at all. But in the beginning she's telling oh i want to see you real badly, we had sex and she didn't me to leave her house afterwords, she says perfect, and wants to be my dream girl but can't cause she's got a lot of stuff going on.

2016-11-02T09:30:13Z

So im curious as to why she still has me on snapchat and stuff, yet she turns me down. last time I talked to her was last Monday, should I contact her at all?

2016-11-04T16:52:57Z

All she does now is watch my post, she never post anything on snapchat anymore? I really want to message her but then I'll come off as needy I feel like.

Anonymous2016-11-07T16:57:59Z

Honestly? It seems like she's playing games right now.... i mean one minute she's not ready then the next she is following texting u etc... if deep inside she didn't want anything to do with u should would cut the contact trust me but to me it seems like she's playing games and was worried of being judged of having sex with u for the first night what so ever
It seems drama and a little off something isn't right
if someone wants to play games and not be straight with u then ur better off them thats a red flag
she might be great and nice and sex was awesome but i mean all these are red flags
she could also still be in love with her ex i mean the girl just broken up with her ex a month ago
Who knows only she can tell u and she did
But u need to show her that ur done so she can quit playing games with u
and if she wants u she will show some effort and if she does u need to tell her to stop and to be straight forward with you
If she doesn't then move on now really cuz u will only end up hurting urself
Good luck.

Sara2016-11-04T09:26:31Z

It seems she just isnt ready. Put yourself in her postition. It would be really hard! what I can suggest is always be there for her as she has it pretty rough right now. I would send her a message and say how you are there for her if she needs to talk and tell her you wont judge her and whatnot. Just honestly be there for her as a friend. Something might grow from that. She will soon realize you are a great person whom can be trusted. No matter what everything will work out whether you become a couple or not. Just when you message her say something like this "I dont want you to feel obligated to message me back saying everything thats wrong and all. I just thought I should let you know that I am always here no matter what. " I hope this helps! After that give her some space as a relationship like her previous one will be hard to heal from.

Z2016-11-02T11:56:52Z

It honestly sounds like she's into you, but isn't ready for a relationship at the moment. From what you've said, she isn't in a good place, with a seemingly abusive ex and issues in her family, so she probably just needs time to figure herself out and see what she wants from life.

I wouldn't keep pushing to talk to her though, since it seems like she just needs space going through this rough patch. I know dozens of people who have been through rough situations due to family issues or life in general, and it REALLY takes a downward turn on their personal lives & relationships.

If she really cares about you, someday when she's ready, she'll reach out to you and see if you're still interested. I wouldn't hold your breath though, and for the time being, I'd move on. I think she needed someone to be there for her through this and that someone was you. What happens next really depends on how soon she overcomes her current situation. Good luck!

Anonymous2016-11-03T04:04:00Z

Man you young guys are unusually fast it once took me 6 1/2 years to get a woman I met online to trust me and have a steak dinner with me yet you meet the girl on snap chat the first time and have sex with her just like that.

Sounds like she's too raw from her broken relationship move on find someone else she's being straight with you she's not ready for a serious relationship don't read more into it than there is.

Anonymous2016-11-02T12:26:35Z

I don't think this girl is serious about pursuing a relationship with you. I think you hooked up too fast with her. Obviously it got you hooked and getting you desperate but she's not sharing the same thing. I'd remove her from snapchat, phone, etc. and move on. She just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I would recommend against waiting out for her to be ready. You would be wasting your time.

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