I think there is something wrong with me but I don't know how to fix it?

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All my life I have always been quiet and shy but now I'm starting to think tgat I'm too quiet.every time I set foot in school in the mornings I have the same feelings everyday of wanting to have friends and girlfriends or what not but I just don't know how to get any. A big reason why I have always been afraid of social interaction is because pretty much everybody has their same group they stick with and I have always thought that it would be weird trying to fit in with a certain group.I really want to be able to have friends and feel like a normal person and not be so depressed all the time cause I don't. One thing I've realized about being quiet and having little to no friends is that it causes negative thoughts to pop pout of no where. And I have negative thoughts about this. Stuff on a daily basis but I don't know how to fix it. Another thing that is worong with me is that I tend to keep thoughts to myself way to much. But I am afraid of speaking them out. It's actually kind of weird cause I'll have conversations with people in my head but have trouble doing it in real life. I can't even have a good conversation  with my mom cause I never know what to say nor do I ever know what to say in school. Btw I am 16 years old and a sophomore in high school.

Ayfore · Answer

First, there is nothing "wrong" about how your feeling. Its pretty normal to feel the way you do at your age. I know it sucks to feel alone in a crowd of people, but that is just in your head. So step out of your own thoughts. Make it your choice not to be part of a certain group, instead you should try to hang out with all the groups. As for how to approach people... Just ask how they are doing. Show interest in the lives of the people around you. Ask about the class they just finished, or if they want to hang out after school, anything that can start a conversation. Find things you might have in common like classes, video games, movies, people, or other interests. Humor is a good way to break the ice.
      Keeping thoughts to yourself is alright as well, to a point.  If you don't know how to handle your thoughts ask someone who could help, but do so delicately. What I mean is if you are depressed talk to your mom about feeling disappointed or sad. Those are the conversations that you control. You can be direct "Mom. I hate my life and every other person on the planet. They are useless and stupid" or be more subtle; "Mom. Today wasn't great. Didn't really get to hang out with anyone at lunch. Just tired of being so bored." Either way you are in control of the conversation. Hope this helps.

I think there is something wrong with me but I don't know how to fix it?

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