That I was dating this woman for 4 months and haven't seen her in 2 months and I still think a lot about her even though she lost interest in me. I never felt this way and the feelings I feel are kind of strong and I am doing a heck of a job not pursuing her and not making a fool of myself but man... I know there's plenty of fish but easier said than done.
Janet
You fixated on her.
It's like an addiction ..the more you dwell on it, the stronger it becomes.
A little dose of reality, interjected into your dwelling on her, can help: couples who CAN make it work DO make it work. No one loses interest and there is never a breakup.
So what happened is that you spent 4 months developing a fantasy about her, and she lost interest. And now you don't want to let go of the fantasy.
Feelings are NOT love, are nothing LIKE love, and are not permanent.
And since it takes at least 2-3 years of living WITH someone to see the flaws and to be affected BY the flaws .. you really are hooked on a fantasy. You don't know her well, and you have no idea if it would have turned out or if you two would have had a bitter breakup before those 2-3 years were over.