I stretched the truth, should I tell him?

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We've been together for only 2 months. We are both gay men. About three weeks into our relationship I made out with and groped a girl at a party while drunk, but didn't get any sexual satisfaction out of it. I don't know why I did it, but it was just something to do I guess. I didn't do it to cheat. I never intended on having sex with her.

I told him I kissed her and pulled away. I didn't tell him I made out with and groped her. I did pull away, but only after a little while.

Now the guilt is eating me from the inside out, and I feel like I have to tell him. I made a mistake that was out of character, and I learned from that mistake. I know I'll never do it again, I like him too much at this point, but I wasn't sure whether I wanted to be with him then or not.

I have friends who say it isn't worth telling him and hurting him again as I'm just filling in details that don't need to be filled in.

I have friends saying that I should tell him because he deserves to know.

TLDR: We are a gay couple. I made out with and groped a girl at a party and then pulled away, but only told him I kissed her and then pulled away. Do I tell him, or just let it go?

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Let it go

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Live and learn. i don't see what good it would do to give him all the details unless you want to open Pandora's box.  Just leave it alone, move forward with your life.

Caroline · Answer

Ugh, don't be ridiculous. Telling him that will only make him wonder what kind of hijinx you get up to when sloshed. Do you really want to have a tense convo every time you want to go somewhere with and without him? 
You didn't do anything serious, you were drunk, and you'd be really really stupid to make more of it than it was by telling him. 
I would say the same thing to a straight person, btw, if that matters.

I stretched the truth, should I tell him?

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