The problem is that we live one town away from each other so avoiding him altogether is impossible because of family get togethers. Short of disowning my entire family, who I love, how do I move forward?
Pearl
you might need god's help for that
Anonymous
No one is forcing you to interact with him at family affairs.
Leto
Limit your time in shared situations to a minimum. Let your family know your side of the story. Try to make time with them before he gets there or after he leaves.
Ricky
Just stop visiting him. Don't ever respond to him and your good.
David S
Don't allow your falling out with your brother to keep you away from family get-togethers. Go as usual, and just avoid him. If you have no choice but to have contact simply acknowledge him with a nod and move away.