You people, here on Y!A, and people everywhere, are exchanging statements; is it sometimes like this?
though with statements, people voice quite a lot of what they think and what they mean, little of what's meant is understood. Is this communication? Do you know what they mean? Do they know what you mean? Do you want to understand? Do you want to be understood? Do you want to communicate? Why would somebody not want to communicate? Why would counterparts be unable to communicate?
2019-09-20T23:05:11Z
I realize that I don't always word things in the best way. Sorry. What I'm trying to say is: People are trying to say what they mean, and the people to whom they are speaking don't understand the person to whom they are listening. Do you agree? I'm following that question with more questions in an attempt to illuminate why this might be so.
2019-09-20T23:07:44Z
Uncle Fester gets it.
Uncle Fester2019-09-16T09:14:43Z
"Little of what's meant is understood"...True, the reader has to be sympathetic to the stance of the writer and understand the language used. A few words may contain unfamiliar phrases, errors, twists, barbs and references to things which the reader is unaware of.
"Is this communication?"...It is if what is meant is understood by the reader.
"Do you want to understand?"..Tricky. Everybody wants to understand what they are already open to. They will not want to understand ideas that are at odds with their chosen world view or do not support their idea of what is real.
"Do you want to be understood?"...Personally, not always. Sometimes I will throw in such an obscure reference that nobody appears to see it. Sometimes this gives me a feeling of success. Being understood on here is not as essential as it is in daily life.
"Do I want to communicate?"...I guess I must do, otherwise I would not be typing ths answer. The irony is that frequently I am communicating on here whilst ignoring the efforts of the real people right next to me.
"Why would somebody not want to?"..Introverts may avoid the effort of communication, those who have things to hide may not want to give themselves away, those who have poor social skills or education may feel they will be mocked. I am sure there are many more reasons.
There is no doubt that communication is important. Our whole society is built on the transfer of information and the flow of ideas. Yet it is something we take for granted as just being there.
I studied it, did it for years. Lot of work. Slow slogging. Yes, gradually works. But I'm moving away from that. More peaceful, far less invasive. Valuing my own space far more. I continue with my significant other. Sometimes if really obviously my call.
If happy as things are, I prefer just to enjoy the wonders around me. Sometimes I do feel it's right to help out. Seldom have I needed help lately. It's quieter.