I'm 27 and still unemployed.. much of the time I feel?

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Let's talk first about what depression is.. Depression is a feeling - all our feelings are created by our thoughts. So, if you think negative, self-defeating thoughts, you WILL feel negative and defeated. The fact that you are depressed, proves one thing - you are thinking negative thoughts.  If you think positive, self-affirming thoughts, you feel positive. This is how feelings work, and it is the ONLY way they work.. This explains why someone who seems to 'have it all' can commit suicide - happiness doesn't come from having money, a fancy car, a big house, good looks, lots of friends, fame, success or, in your case, finding a job - happiness is a feeling that comes from thinking positive, self-affirming thoughts..
I know I am going on and on, but I want to make this totally clear - a billionaire MIGHT be happy, if he is thinking about all the freedom he has (thinking positive), or he could just as easily be miserable and depressed, if he is thinking about how expensive servants are, and how everyone wants his money, and how he doesn't know who his friends are anymore..
The good news is that what we think about every waking moment is a CHOICE! Negative thinking is a habit - habits can be changed. Negative thoughts are like little brats that want all your attention, but you do not have to give it to them!
step one - a negative thought comes to mind "My life sucks, I will never find a job"
step two - stop right there and reply "NO. I refuse to think this way. This way of thinking fixes nothing, changes nothing and is a total and complete waste of my time and energy, plus it creates negative feelings. I refuse to think this way!"
step three - CHANGE YOUR FOCUS to something positive "Negative feelings don't control me. I CONTROL ME! I decide how I will think. I choose what I will think about.. Like everyone else, I have problems, but by setting goals, thinking of solutions to my problems, I can change my life. I will find a job if I keep looking. I can do this!"
See how this works? First you shut down the negative thoughts, then you replace it with something positive and self-affirming, and finally, you think of solutions and set goals to fix whatever is wrong.
THINK MORE ABOUT THE BAD STUFF.. keeps you stuck in a problem.. working towards a goal, finding a solution moves you forward, gives you hope, renews your energy and enthusiasm for life.. try it.. every single little step you take towards overcoming a problem and reaching your goal will make you feel GOOD.
Be your own best friend - this means that you never beat yourself up, never insult yourself, or call yourself names.. for example, would you ever say to a good friend, "gee you are stupid!" No, you wouldn't.. you would try and build your friend up, give some good advice or a little pep talk.. this is how you must treat yourself at all times.. putting yourself down destroys self esteem and self confidence.. accept that we are all weak, flawed, foolish at times, that we all make mistakes, struggle etc.. and be KIND to yourself. Never let a problem or mistake bring you down - immediately get back up and start again.. The phrase "I can do this!" has gotten me through many hard days.. you want to be positive and encouraging.. you want to focus on goals and solutions, never on the problem itself. You want to ACT every day - take little steps towards reaching those goals and solutions, and you want to treat yourself well - this is how you achieve happiness and avoid depression.
Next topic - you feel ashamed.. you feel the need to mention that you are a 'drop-out' when you could have instead  said, "I have a bachelor's degree" and leave it at that.. what this tells me is that you are upset with yourself because you didn't achieve all of your goals, as you had hoped. You have very high expectations for yourself, and if you do not meet those high expectations, well then you are just going to be upset with yourself.. this is perfectionism - think of how you are treating yourself - would you be ashamed of a dear friend who doesn't have a master's degree? Would you tell them you are ashamed of them? Would you run that friend down, as you do yourself? My guess is that 'no' you wouldn't.. this is a bit different than depression. Depression is thinking negative thoughts, but being ashamed of not being everything you wish you were is to admit that you don't feel you are worthy JUST AS YOU ARE.. you are saying that without that master's degree, you aren't good enough.. and that is simply not true - what then, do you think of people with mental disabilities that haven't even finished secondary school? All of us are 'worthy'.  Take for example, a $20 bill.. if you step on it, what is it worth? It is still worth $20. If you get dirt on it, crumple it up, it is still worth $2- - why? Because the value of that $20 is not based on what has happened to it, it's value is inherent - it has value, simply because it exists. Don't let your job/abilities define who you are.. stop identifying so much with your performance. With or without a job, with or without that master's degree, you are worthy and have nothing to be ashamed of! That doesn't mean that you have to give up.. I don't know enough about you to say what you should do - only you do.. but you do need to accept that we are all weak/foolish/imperfect at times, that we can't always achieve all our dreams. Here is an example from my own life. I went to college for computer programming, which I loved - unfortunately, my brain simply is not wired for mathematics. When it came to writing programs that required a lot of math, I was dead in the water. I tried, I cried, I gave it all I had.. all to no avail - I failed ONE semester of ONE course and therefore did not graduate. I am a COLLEGE drop out! :-) My family urged me to go back and try again, but I knew it was no use, and besides, even if I did graduate, if my job required math, what was I going to do?! So, instead of fighting against what I couldn't do, I thought about my strengths. I like computers, I have good people skills - I took a 6 week bank teller course, and got a job in a week! Point is, I focused on what I could do, I looked at my strengths, and I refused to beat myself up because I am not good at math. :-) 
CHANGE YOUR THINKING AND YOU CHANGE YOUR LIFE. Happiness, in any situation is possible - I've seen kids in third world countries who are happy - it's a state of mind - stay positive, focus on your goals, use your strengths. If you don't quit, you haven't lost.. and lastly, I hope you will recognize that your worth doesn't come because of your abilities.. sometimes life has other plans for us.. I know in my own life, things haven't turned out like I thought they would, but it is okay.. I am happy, because I choose to be. I like to think I am EXACTLY where I am supposed to be. 
You can do this!...Show more

I think you are going to have difficulty working in the IT industry. Did you ever watch the movie that's called the social network?

I think you should watch it, and then let us all know what you think about that movie.

What many people do in the IT industry is they start their own business.

Currently I am working on some projects. I want to experiment with my projects to see which ones are good enough, so I can earn a living from it, and yes, I am able to publish my projects all over the world.

I have done networking, and I was lucky enough to find, and get some jobs, but I want to try a different avenue. I think networking does help, but I don't want to limit myself to just doing networking....Show more

i think its normal, maybe you should go to the employment agency and have them help you get a job...Show more

You have plenty of schooling with just a bachelor's degree to get a job. Try working with seniors the community action center or concerted services they're always looking for somebody to fill out the paperwork for those people to get their free electricity and their meals on wheels. Or to deliver those meals...Show more

u should see a therapist or get counseling about this.
get an employment specialist to help u find a job....Show more