Seems like I have been forcing a lot of things I wanted on my SO. After a big huge fight I came to realize that he never did want some of the things I wanted, I don’t know where to go from here. I love him, but I’m not sure I want to give up on the things I envisioned for myself in a relationship.
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If the relationship isn't making you happy, maybe it's time to leave. The relationship is obviously not what you're looking for, as you are envisioning much for things for yourself to be happy in a relationship. But sometimes, in relationships you can't always have what you want. You shouldn't be too dominate, both partners need to be equal and listen to each other's feelings so that both can be happy. But it's up to you whether or not you want to leave the relationship. Maybe try seeing for a few more days if you are truly happy with your SO :)
Anonymous
Move along, no reason to fight. You see its not what you both want. So break it off, and avoid having more problems in the future. Giving up things, will only keep you unhappy.
chris n
This is what relationships are all about. You discover things about your partner you never knew before - and you also discover things about yourself you never knew before. You now know what YOU want and you now know what he DOESN'T want. So it's time to work something out between you. Partnerships are give and take. You feel you have perhaps been doing all the 'taking' - forcing him to do what YOU wanted all the time - but not doing things that HE wanted. Sad that it's ended up in a huge bust-up - but it's probably cleared the air and you are now on a more honest footing with each other. Have a calm and proper discussion about how you both feel about each other, how you both feel about a future together (or not) and how you can change your present situation to give both of you a little of what you both want which will make you happier.
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I think you know the answer to that.