My ex ignores me and has refused to talk to me for years?
I have an ex that I've been divorced fom for over 20 years. We share two grown children. We often will go out with the kids for different events, birthday dinners, etc. Everytime we go out, my ex makes me sit in the back seat of the car which I hate.
When we get to the place, he does not say one word to me the entire time. I do often bring up things or show him pictures to initiate conversation but he will shut me down with one word answers and go back to completely ignoring me again. He will talk to my children but not me at all.
It often makes me feel very awkward and people will even look over. I finally decided I am not going to be a part of anything he is at anymore. It is very dysfunctional. Why would my ex ignore me outright for years?
It's his right to ignore you. He doesn't have to be nice to you and it's oblivious if it wasn't for your kids he'd have nothing to do with you. Maybe his feelings are justifiable or maybe not, but either way there's nothing you can do about it. Why are you letting it get to you? Why do you care? He's moved on from the past so maybe you need to as well and stop worrying about how he's acting.
He's emotionally abused you in the past so why expect anything different after the D?
The fact that it still bothers you indicates the deepness of the scars he left on you.
Let that go as forgotten thoughts and continue to thrive for you cannot save every breach we have either caused or been victims of.... just move onwards dear....
He has unresolved resentment toward you for whatever he feels slighted for from when u two were together. He is punishing you by giving one word answers and making u sit in the back. So, instead of playing his game, do not ride anywhere in a vehicle he will be in. I would still go to things that involve the kids that he may be at if they are milestone events, but why show him pics and trying to engage him? Just go, enjoy yourself and talk to the people who talk back to you appropriately. When it comes to trying to figure out ex-husbands, dont!