Are relationships really based on love?
Everyone says it is, but if people were really honest with themselves I think they'd realize their relationships are actually based on status quo, reputation, and money. Love is no different than any other human emotion. Sometimes you're angry, sometimes you're sad, other times you're happy, but you're not supposed to feel any one way all of the time, that includes feelings of love. If you think love lasts forever you are delusional. Even if it could, it shouldn't as this would be unnatural. The Beetles were wrong, love is not all you need for a relationship to work. It can't always be sunshine and rainbows, the party has to end at some point. Is it really your spouse's charming personality that keeps you from getting a divorce or are you simply afraid of loosing the house, car, and becoming a single parent, until one day you decide to overcome that fear? Love fades, it is pretty much an inevitability, yet no one prepares you for it. Nobody warns you about this, but they are quick to wish you the best of luck in your future together as if everything is just gonna work out perfectly solely because you want it to.
Am I being too pessimistic or just thinking realistically? If you marry simply because you're in love it just seems like you are setting yourself up for failure. Can we have a real discussion on what to do when the love just isn't there anymore, because that day will come, it's simply a matter of time? It's not always someone's fault, this is just human nature.