I feel like my girlfriend of 4 years gets jealous easily. Sometimes, when I hang out with my male good friend, she can get upset saying that I am more interested in my friends than her. Bla Bla Bla.
I feel like we spend enough time together since I try to divide my time equally. What do you guys think?
Kaitlyn
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She just really likes you, like a lot and you need to put her above your friends sometimes, sure you can still go out and see her at the same time but she’s your girlfriend, don’t spend equal time with her as you do everyone else, spend most of your time with her, dating leads to marriage homie, if she’s your wife you guys will be around each other ALL the time, almost 24/7, spend more time your gf.
Annakutty
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Anonymous
She loves you, she wants to spend every moment and time with you. You need to put her first, friends second. If you want to spend with your friends alone without her then be single.
Jerry
What I think is that different people have different ideas about the right amount of togetherness. And if two people have very different ideas about it, then that will lead to the person who wants more togetherness being unhappy, maybe resentful or angry.
I think you two need to be more clear on what each can expect from the other. For example if every Tuesday was chess night (or whatever) then she'd know what to expect. Same if the second Saturday of every month was dinner with the boys nights. And nothing wrong with setting aside one day a week as your day for errands and housework, setting aside days where you go to the gym after work. If you're consistent, if she can count on you being busy Tuesdays, Thursdays, and every second Saturday, if she can count on Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday evenings being "our" nights, she can probably live with that easier than a surprise "No I've made other plans."
I don't agree with the idea that dating is suitable only for people with some idea of its leading to marriage. Nothing wrong with enjoying outings with a "Mr. Right Now" who is a pleasant companion and perhaps even a dear friend -- but not marriage material. The only wrong would be in a pretense of considering him for marriage when you're not.
Anonymous
Dunno. I don't mind clingy/attached girls. If she's that way, maybe hang out with your friend during the day, and hang out with her afterwards. Plan to do something like go out for ice cream or a walk in the park.