employer is giving me a hard time about requesting time off? ?

I just started working a a new job that is my second job (minimal hours) since I first applied here I let them know I was going to be needing flexibility in my schedule and requesting time off as I have trips coming up this is something I communicated for my very first interview. now that time is coming and my boss is giving me a hard time about asking for so much time off I understand that she needs someone but also I don’t understand why she would tell me it would b OK for me to take time off and then try and guilt trip me into not requesting it. I am working as a  coach which I’ve had years of experience so I bring a lot of quality to the table. also I am still getting paid the training amount even though I’m doing just as much work as everybody else & my boss is super unorganized has barely trained me i didn’t get my 1st paycheck bc she didn’t have the information to file it.i am a fast learner so it hasn’t been too much of an issue. but she was sort of being manipulative and saying well are you going to need two weeks off every single month and I was like well probably not every month but yes sometimes I do need time off and I will request with much notice in advance but I do have other obligations outside of here. then she mentioned well in the real world you can’t ask for that much time off that is frustrating to me because I am an adult I 100% support myself and I do live in the real world so I’m not really sure what she’s trying to say by that. not sure what to do?? 

2021-04-07T00:04:15Z

she mentioned would I even be able to afford to take that much time off & I feel like she’s manipulative bc I wouldn’t be requesting time off if I couldn’t afford it. also communication is bad w her which wasn’t a problem but she’s expecting me to do so much while being an extremely unorganized is weird to me.  Also my coworker mentioned I don’t need a sub bc I’m still in training yet boss said I needed 1 
but if I’m still being paid training amount then I shouldn’t so that doesn’t add up? 

2021-04-07T01:35:02Z

& to update I did let her know the exact dates I was going to be meeting off and how long each time, I specifically communicated this because I do know that it’s a lot of time off to request at a new job & I specifically said that I was looking for a job that is flexible with stuff like that because of my upcoming trips

2021-04-07T01:36:44Z

and I would completely understand her not wanting to give me the time off if I hadn’t communicated but she specifically told me that they are super flexible and not they would be OK with those exact dates 

Anonymous2021-04-07T01:45:36Z

I think although you sound like a good employee, you're just taking too much time off.  It's hard for employers when you're gone for a week during one month, then two weeks during the next month.  Understandably, people want to travel right now.  And you did bring up travel during your interview.  However, if you're a brand new employee, you should have decided to limit your travel to one or two trips, and that's for the rest of the year.  Even if you're part-time, and it's your second job, your job should come first.  Choosing the job over travel shows you're a dedicated employee. There really aren't too many jobs where you'd have the flexibility you want, except if you have your own business.

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n2mama2021-04-07T00:57:05Z

I think it would be best for you to quit. Your boss is obviously irritated with your requests for time off (did you communicate the true extent of your time off needs during the interview, or simply mention that you would need “some” time off for a trip? She may have assumed you meant a week off once, not two weeks every month, which is excessive), which means she will either start not approving your requests and then fire you for attendance when you don’t come in, or continue to give you a hard time about it. You don’t sound happy about the situation either, so maybe better to just quit now no look for something else. Clearly you don’t need the money too badly if you’re taking a lot of time off to travel.

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Eva2021-04-07T00:06:55Z

Try to see it from her point of view.  She needs someone to work.  When you're gone for 2 weeks how does she find someone to fill that time?  Everyone wants hours, and few people are going to want to work for a week or two and then not work again for a month.  It's also very hard to train people that aren't there very much as they forget things between sessions.  If you can't commit to the hours, do her a favor and quit so she can find someone that can work the schedule. It's one thing to ask for a day here and there, an entirely different matter to ask for weeks off multiple times.

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