How to handle this request for chipping in on a birthday gift?

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Someone at my book club sent out a group Facebook message to members saying: "I've purchased a sweater for the book club president for her birthday.  Anyone interested in chipping in,  LMK.  There will also be a birthday card to be presented to her along with the gift."  The message was sent on Friday and I didn't see it til after the weekend.  The gift buyer then wrote in another group FB message:  "8 ppl expressed interest in chipping in on the gift.  So those ppl should venmo me $10."  My question:  I would have liked to have chipped in for the gift and to have signed the birthday card.  But I didn't find out about it in time.  How might I handle it?

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i would chip in if you want to

Anonymous · Answer

Give your own gift and card since you read the email late.
Or email the person and say I just saw this message is it too late to join in. Just me, personally. If this is a group gift then they buyer should not have purchase a gift first. They buy a gift they want to buy, then ask others to give them money for it. No thanks.

Pat Wooden · Answer

Since they used the term "anyone interested" they realize that some people may not be interested.  Be honest, and tell the person how you feel.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell her you didn't see the email and if possible, can you contribute to the gift.

bluebellbkk · Answer

If the birthday wasn't actually over the weekend it might not be too late. Surely the obvious thing is to get in touch NOW and say, "Sorry I didn't see this till now. Please tell me how I can contribute if it's not too late".

How to handle this request for chipping in on a birthday gift?

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