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Hello! I have a roomate and we both enjoy smoking weed on occasion. My dad is coming over to our apartment and her weed assortment and paraphernalia is all out on a tray table in front of the couches. As I said, I do smoke, but It’s not something I want to personally be that open with, and if he saw it of course I’d have to say I do too and I wouldn’t want to say it’s not mine. I know he does also in fact but I don’t think i really see it unless he uses it. I want her to feel comfortable and I know she’s already nervous and I don’t want to make her nervous but it’s making me nervous. Should I ask her to put it away for now or just leave it alone?

Ogres are like Onions · Answer

Just like any other part of your personal adult life, you have a right to do what you want, and you also have the right to privacy.
Whatever you have put in the open when guests come over ought to be what you wouldn’t mind being advertised in the public square.
My recommendation would be whatever you would like to keep private, keep out of public view when you have guests.
Myself, for example, I keep personal family photographs in my bedroom and private office.  There are none in my living room where I might have guests or visitors.  There’s no advantage in having a repairman seeing my relatives, and no advantage in having your dad see your drug use.

Lili · Answer

Of course you should ask her to put it away.  That's the obvious thing to do, and she shouldn't even have to be told.

Be nice about it, but just say, "It would probably be best if we didn't leave all this out when Dad's here.  Let's just put it away somewhere. "

He'll smell it anyway. I can't believe people think others can't automatically smell it on them and in the environments in which they smoke. In my condo building I can tell instantly that someone who smokes weed has been in one of the elevators just before me.

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