What do you say to one that doesn't recognize you, you knew for over 40 yrs, and its only been 10 yrs since?

You dated for a year and a half in high school, and she doesn't remember you? That's not normal. She could have some kind of memory loss.

Where did you see her in the store or in public somewhere? Did you go up to her? Did you say anything to her first? If the answer is no maybe she was preoccupied maybe a relative is sick or just passed away? If you did did you introduce yourself? If not maybe she thought you barely remembered her and didn't want to embarrass herself. Or maybe she is at a place in her life where she can't afford to open old doors and didn't want to seem rude. Or maybe she doesn't remember much these days. Or maybe you broke her heart or she remembers you did and she doesn't want to be sad. Of all of these and due to the lack of details on the incounter and knowing myself i am inclined to think the first. I can be very distracted by life and If i recognize someone i mention it unless something is bothering me then i may or may not remember much of anything and I am 26.(though my family seems to go senile at age 8 but still) see what I mean? I'll be here a while longer if you have more details post again I will be watching. Good luck.

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additional the next question is do the 3 friends live near her had they maybe kept in contact with her and/or was the parting between you tramatic for HER. I say if none of these things occur shrug it off or if it still bothers you try asking her. Maybe something like..."I've wondered if you thought about me I was afraid it went badly with you after we parted. *pause to see if she will say something but not to long if she does take it from there if not* You seem to be doing well though maybe we should keep in touch." If she interjects something you have an opening if not you went on and didn't give her a chance to...reject a friendship awkwardly and hurt you worse, yet you still leave an opening to future conversation if she changes her mind. once again good luck

The first thing is please, please know that being that it was at her mothers funeral, her mind may not have been on talking to old boyfriends. She may not have known what to say or how to act with you. She may have pined for you her whole life and thats why she never married...how do you face someone after 10 years? someone you loved and lost? Theres no perfect script to grab at a time like that to tell you what to say and do. It wasnt the right place or time.

Second. Shes 60 years old. Some people age well (mind wise)...some dont. You know bits of where she has been and what she has been doing, but what of her health? My grandfather had a tumor removed and lost some memory.

If she had truely recognized you and just wanted to hurt you...you would have seen it in her eyes. You would have seen some sort or reaction when she first saw you.

Or maybe seeing you again after so long was just to much hurt to be takeing on her shoulders at her mothers funeral. If it had been me, it would have been to much at once. Something would have to shut down. At that moment her time was to morn her mother.

It sounds like you still care about her. If you did'nt, you wouldnt still be keeping track of her life paths. I hope at least maybe you will send her a card. Tell her that you feel for her loss and always think fondly of her. If she ever needs someone to talk to that your only a phone call away.

I hope I wasnt way off base with this. If I was...just smile and go on to the next answer :)

Did it ever occur to you that maybe she was having a rough day, and you caught her totally off guard? Your the only one who can answer this question, because you know what kind of person she is, especially if you dated her! My personal opinion was, you were out of line commenting on your gray hair and her weight gain. No woman, no matter how young or old, wants to hear about your imperfections, and whether or not you feel she has gained a "few pounds" .

Sometimes people do forget, and it is just a sign of human foibles. We all do it at one time or another, don't you think? Simply try not to get offended, remind her of your name and what you have in common with her, and mention how nice it is to see her again. Refresh her memory here and there gently and with a sense of humor, and it will come back to her. If she didn't love you then, she will start to love you now as long as she doens't feel judged or embarrassed. Sounds like you really do care. Just proceed gently and lovingly, and it will work out. :)

Sir,dont let that get into u.who knows ?may be not everybody has that "touch wood" memory in ur beutiful head! may be she started 2 forget things..its aging sir & not everybody could pass it safe & sound..sir,if u hit the rock bottom, ask urself:do i need her in my life now or not? if u answered yes,then try step by step 2 be good friends & recall the old days with that cute blonde hair u had & let the future answer ur question...GOOD LUCK

Don't get over upset. The best thing to do is relax. Spend some time with her if she would let you. Be friends, and see where that goes, because if she falls for you like it seems you are falling for her, then she won't forget your face again. :-)