Am I wrong?

Actually it is wrong. Look at the guy. He's got his cake and is eating it too! He's not at all pressed. If he truely loves you, then he should get a divorce before pursuing your relationship any further. Who knows. Maybe he is telling you that you "are his only true love" while on the other hand, he's telling his wife the same thing.

Another thought to ponder. Right now you are considered his "mistress." Who is to say that later on, he may or may not find another mistress behind YOUR back. How would that make you feel? I'm in no way trying to belittle you, because you have a valid question here. You (as well as any other woman or man) deserves honesty and trust in a relationship. Personally, I don't think I could trust him if I were in your shoes, because of the way your relationship started out in the first place.

Yes, you're wrong, on the upside he's even more wrong. If he has any balls or decency he should at least get out of the marriage before getting into you, so to speak.

The bit about him telling you about a divorce, c'mon, we've all seen that movie.

Infidelity is infidelity. Ask yourself how you would feel if you were the wife.

YES! even if his marriage is crappy it is still wrong, for BOTH of you. if he's messing around on his wife, why would you think he wouldn't do the same to you??????? the point is he IS married- he took vows with this woman and if he is not happy he needs to get a divorce so everyone can move on. shame on both of you- can't you find a single man out there somewhere. and people wonder why marriages don't last these days!?!

probably not what you wanted to hear, but YOU ASKED!!!!!

Yes. If he is deciding to get a divorce and this relationship is to continue after that is finalized. It's not what you are doing to him or his family, it's what your doing to you. As a woman what are your beliefs and what does that say about you. We need to be strong in ourselves, it's like asking if killing someone is right or wrong? What if the same thing was being asked about your husband and another woman down the line? Maybe this will explain Karma in your future??

Yes, yes, yes. It don't matter how bad his marriage is or anything like that. He's a cheating, you're helping him. Put yourself in the wife's shoes... how would you feel that the man that you married is dating another woman behind YOUR back?!?!??

Break it off, until he leaves his wife and then you can begin a life with him, without hurting someone else in return.

YES, and you should more than "sort of" know this answer.

Respect his wife. You are commiting adultery. I don't care if he is fabulous, is going to leave her, is in the process of separating or what. If he is having an affair, he is already proving he is adept at lying, and if you think he wouldn't lie to you, you're crazy.

Get out now!

EDIT after I read your additional details just added- Does he still live with her? If so- read the above. If not...still read the above because if his wife finds out she can use you to really screw him in the divorce. If they really are getting one.

Yes, you will never completely have him, you'll always be the other woman! He can tell you he loves you, he has a bad marriage, he's about to get a divorce, no matter what he says, you're just the other woman. You'll just end up feeling used and hurt. Get with someone in your own status, single!!

Answer is in the question:

Lets think for a moment that you are married. What would be your answer if some one asks this for your husband?

Even if the relation between the couple is not good, you should not make it more worse!!

I am not one to judge and no one else should either. Let he who is without sin...I have been with a married man before. i even baby sat their children we all make mistakes. But I am now a firm believer in karma and you always get what you give. So if you want to add to your karmaic debt go ahead but know that you will have to pay for your fun later.

Yes you are wrong.

Not saying he isn't wrong either and you aren't all to blame but if you willingly date a married man that you KNOW is married.... Come on.... Doesn't take rocket science to figure that one out.

What if you were married and your husband was cheating on you with someone and she knew that he was married but still did it anyways... Would she be wrong??