im 23 2 kids n married is there a chance of gettin my life back?

NO there isn't a way to get your life back because now you need to keep your kids' welfare in mind for every single decision. BUT that doesn't mean you cannot still enjoy yourself. A lot of it is getting your priorities in order and making decisions WITHOUT worrying about what other people think. Of course, that's as long as your marriage is going well and your kids are healthy, happy, and safe. If you are the type that doesn't mind leaving your kids with a sitter/caregiver so you can go shop, work, get your nails done, hang at the beach, party - whatever - then find someone you trust and do it. If leaving your kids with someone while you go somewhere makes you feel rather guilty or just not right, then don't do it.

YOU decided what your life will be like, to heck with critics. If you are taking care of yourself, your husband. AND your kids, then you have got things going well.

I have 3 kids and I am married. I admit I chose to give up a lot to stay at home with the younger 2 b/c we can't afford for me to go back to work! But I did keep my volleyball playing - which I NEVER intended to give up. People tell me all the time I should be home with my kids instead of v-balling and others tell me I should go back to work b/c that's what should be done.

As long as you remember you're a mom and do not go overboard, you should be fine and happy. Good luck!

This is your life...but it doesn't mean you cannot enjoy it. Once in a while you and your spouse go out on an adult night. Enjoy your kids while they are young, they grow up fast. I too married young, and by the time I was your age I had all three of my kids. It hasn't always been easy, but it has been oh so worth it. My kids are now 7, 8 and 9 years old, and there are days when I wish I could turn back the clocks just for a little while to enjoy them being babies again. Just enjoy your family, and remember you really would be lonely without them.

Yes, but it won't be easy. I'm 40, I also was married with a baby at 20 yrs old. Start by using birth control and if there is any chance of getting some kind of college degree, do it. You are young, you have plenty of time to do something else with yourself. Never give up on yourself! Work hard and stay proud and take good care of those kids.

That should be a great life? Or least in terms of your kids anyways. I have a son and i'm 24 and I couldn't imagine a better life for myself, sure at times it's a little stressful and you don't get the free time you once did, but thats a part of growing up and taking responsibility. As for your marriage you should be happy in that as well. However, if your not that is something you can do without.

I don't quite get what you mean. It sounds like you have been blessed with a husband two kids. You should view your life as enhanced instead of being over. Maybe what you need is some time to puruse interests that you and your husband don't share. With that, I recommend something like volunteer work or a night out with the girls. It would also provide you with opportunities to communicate with your husband about things outside of day to day issues.

To have those kind of committments at 23 is really unfortunate. Most people your age are just finishing college and exploring life and dating all kinds of people. I think you are missing out on a lot and should take plenty of time to still be young while you can and are.

When you say "life" you must mean "old life" and the answer is an emphatic "no". You signed up for this, and you can't go back now. Your best bet is to do whatever you can to make your "new life" as fantastic as possible. Don't worry about what you've had to sacrifice and give up - you've gained many things and you should celebrate them.

I'm guessing that you are a woman. And yes, you have unlimited possibilities. Your life has barely begun. The trick now is to learn to recognize opportunity in adversity. The opportunities will be many. Your job is to take advantage of them, and become anything you want! Set your goals and complete them one step at a time. Just be sure the welfare of your children are included in these goals. YOU CAN DO IT.

LOL, I can sympathize with you as I often wondered that myself. My kids are now 16 and 18. Enjoy them while you can. The time goes by so fast. This is your life now. Try looking at it from another angle.

this may seem dumb coming from someone who isnt a mom but i know a lot of moms and i knwo a lot of them take time for themselves and thats what u need to do take time for urself otherwise ull be cranky and ur kids will feel that tension they need u to have ur own identity too so u can be a happy person bc like they say if momma aint happy aint nobody happy haha

ughh i dont think she meant she didnt want them i think she meant that she wanted her life back such as her own identity damn does anyone know what its like to lose ur self and needing to find that back